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Telling a Friend who is TTC that your pregnant.

apostle85apostle85 member
edited July 2021 in Ohio Babies
I am about 5 weeks pregnant and the baby was a bit of a surprise.  I have a friend who's been TTC for almost a year and I am scared to death to tell her that I'm pregnant.  I don't want this to ruin our friendship and I'm not really sure what the right words are to say.  She has been having a lot of emotions lately and I am just really unsure about how to tell her or when to tell her.  I feel like I should say something sooner rather than later but I'm so nervous. HELP!
Met DH: 2.5.2008
Engaged: 4.9.11
Married: 9.22.12
Baby Girl J Born: 1.23.2014 via c section - Due with Baby #2: 5.27.2016
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Re: Telling a Friend who is TTC that your pregnant.

  • Jbmoore23Jbmoore23
    It really depends on her. My husband and I have been TTC for over a year and a half and my sisterinlaw just got pregnant after being OBC for just a few months. I'm upset, I'm angry, and I'm bitter. But none of those emotions are really towards her. It's just my own emotions of having such difficulty conceiving. Yes, she will be upset, but it isn't like you got pregnant to upset her and just don't rub your pregnancy in her face. You should be excited but be sensitive to what she is going through at the same time.
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  • apostle85apostle85 member
    Thank you.  I know that she has been having a hard time seeing other friends post things on Facebook about being pregnant.  I figured that talking to her face to face was a better idea then just letting her find out like everyone else.  I know that she knows I didn't do this to spite her.  And thank you for saying none of those emotions are towards her.  I know that she is going to have emotions inside after I tell her that are going to be difficult, I just want her to know because it's so hard to keep this a secret from her.
    Met DH: 2.5.2008
    Engaged: 4.9.11
    Married: 9.22.12
    Baby Girl J Born: 1.23.2014 via c section - Due with Baby #2: 5.27.2016
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  • Jbmoore23Jbmoore23
    Yeah, you should definitely tell her in person and not let her find out from other people or from Facebook. Good luck, and congrats on your pregnancy.
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  • apostle85apostle85 member

    I told her this weekend, it was just her and I and as excited as I think she wanted to be I could see the pain behind her eyes.  I just keep praying that she will be pregnant soon and we can share this experience together.

    I don't think this will affect our friendship, I'm just going to give her some time to process everything and try not to blab about my pregnancy all the time.

    Met DH: 2.5.2008
    Engaged: 4.9.11
    Married: 9.22.12
    Baby Girl J Born: 1.23.2014 via c section - Due with Baby #2: 5.27.2016
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  • Jbmoore23Jbmoore23
    My sister just told me she was pregnant this past weekend. You're frien took it better than I did because I spent the whole day crying because I am the only one now not pregnant and my sister wasn't even trying. I'm sure your friendship will be ok, just be sensitive to her and be there for your.
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