September 2012 Moms
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Unique or tacky?
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A colleague's niece is getting married this summer and the invite showed they are staying at a Sandals resort for their honeymoon. They have a site set up that you can put money toward activities they can do on their honeymoon. Would you find this tacky and give them another gift, give money or buy them a dolphin experience? lol
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Re: Unique or tacky?
IMO super tacky! It's like asking to completely fund their honeymoon. If you can't afford the "experiences" don't do them or don't go.
Also they just bought a home and I'm sure could use household items. We bought our home 1.5 years before getting married and we found plenty of things to register for. Register for the super nice towels you've dreamt over or the better coffee pot not to ride horses on the beach, UGH!
My colleague did say she thought it was super tacky too. Only after she asked me where I registered! lol
Tacky.
It's asking for people to finance your trip which may as well be asking for cash. Apparently on some you can cash out instead of using the activities as well.
It's no different than registering for gifts, in that sense. You can call it a "toaster" but it's money. No, they don't NEED a dolphin swim on their honeymoon. But do they really NEED 3 sets of drinking glasses? Probably not.
That being said, I still think honeymoon registries are tacky. Maybe it's just because they are a newer idea. I honestly don't know.
ETA: I also seriously side-eye some of the outrageous things people register for these days. A $50 iced tea maker? How about a pot of hot water?
TBH I don't understand why people are so touchy about honeymoon registries. I personally am not crazy over the fact that a portion of what you spend goes to the company managing it but the person registering knows that and doesn't seem to mind.
If I am getting you a gift and you are telling me what you want (which is how any registry works) I don't care if it is a pan, toaster or swimming with dolphins. I'm going to spend what I planned on spending no matter where you register. I just don't understand why it is tacky to ask for something towards your trip rather than something for your kitchen. Just because they are registering for the trip doesn't mean they can't afford it. Maybe they have other stuff and don't see a need for a fancier toaster or a better coffee maker. I would rather get what they want than an extra kitchen appliance they don't really want.
Maybe this is an UO but I just don't get the big deal.
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Well, except it is kinda different. A gift is a physical item, a "dolphin experience" is something you pay for as part of your final bill at the resort. I also consider a registry a list of suggestions that you can buy from or not--and a honeymoon registry is suggesting "Give us money for our vacation" while a traditional registry says "We need sheets and we like these." To me, asking for money is always tacky. And I agree--some of the shiz I see on registries gives me hives. Especially when nothing is under, say, $50.
I have no problem with, say, giving a couple a wad of cash to use on their honeymoon or a restaurant gift card or calling the hotel and booking them massages as a wedding gift. It's just the asking for it that bugs me.
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
Tacky to have it on the invitation. Meh for it existing.
I wouldn't do it, but I was thrilled to buy an excursion for my friends in Italy. I asked my friend's mom where they were registered, and she mentioned it because I'm close with them. She set it up for them, for close family only.
I think I am the odd person out as DH and I registered for our honeymoon. We had lived together for 5+ years and had everything we needed. And paid for the whole wedding ourselves. Plus it would have been too hard to take all the stuff back with us on the plane since we got married back home but live out west. We never put on the invitations where we registered just relied on word of mouth. For the most part we received mostly cash gifts anyway, which we were also fine with.
My BIL who is getting married in June has done the same thing and I don't find it tacky at all. I did find it strange it was written on their invitation though.
In this case then all registries are tacky. Which maybe they are, I'm not arguing that point. I just don't see how one type of registry is different from another. I also agree that there are subtle ways of including that information or spreading the word.
It isn't like they are putting their bank routing and account number on the invitation though. I got plenty of things that I didn't register for and use all the time. Half the things I did register for I barely use but thought they were great ideas.
Also getting gifts and returning them to buy something else is no different than someone giving you cash. You just have to spend it at the same place that you return it to.
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Yes on the wedding invite. Also they were not registered anywhere else besides requesting to buy them an excursion or activity.
I also do find any registry info on a wedding invite tacky. I don't feel it belongs there.
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I take back my original comment of finding only registering for a honeymoon to be odd. I can actually see doing a fun honeymoon themed shower. Sip on island drinks by the pool, food spread from location of the honeymoon. Gifts of lingerie and fun excursions. IDK, the only problem I have with it is that it was on the actual wedding invite.
Super tacky that is was listed anywhere in the vacinity of the invite, yes.
But in general, no, I don't think it's tacky to have an online honemoon registry. Some people chose to have online honeymoon registries and honestly I don't think it matters what form that may be. Whether it's a candle light dinner for two at the Marriott or a a tea pot from Macy's, who cares? They'll likely get more satisfaction out of the dinner for two, so have at it, I say.
[MC 11.20.11] [DS born 9.24.12] [DD born 10.15.14]
I had one. And also had a traditional registry. Neither of which were printed on the invite.
People gave gifts from both.
IMO, Tacky.
If they really rather have that, just exchange the gift I buy you
Agreed. Not a fan of the honeymoon registry. Also, doubly tacky that this was on the invite.
I still think ANY mention of a registry on an invite is ridiculously tacky.
It is NOT HARD to email the Mother of the Bride, MOH, etc. to ask where they are registered. Hell, you can even Google it with their names and "wedding registry" usually. Vom.
Life is about expiriences not things...
I would love to live by this motto completely. I wouldn't have any issues contributing to an expirience rather than something to fill up the registry.