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Charging Guests

Here's a great post about the new "trend" of charging kids to attend birthday parties.

http://thestir.cafemom.com/big_kid/156185/charging_kids_to_come_to

To everyone considering diaper showers, bring a card instead of a book showers, raffles of any kind, birthday pools (where the expectant Mom keeps half the money) etc etc....  Just don't.  The same arguments described in the blog apply to baby showers too. 

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  • OMG I can't believe some parents have the nerve to do that! 
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    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?
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  • Ugh. So gross.
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  • People are so effing tacky.  Do what you can afford FFS.
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  • while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

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  • Gross! In what universe is that ever considered okay or acceptable?
  • WTH?!
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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

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    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

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    imageLiz4444:
    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

    Assigned to bring the CAKE!?!?!  I don't even know what to say to that. 
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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

    I'm from New England and have never heard of this before! A ticket to enter? I sure as hell wouldn't go either!

     

    Literally I've been invited to 4 of these in the past two years and people act like I'M the crazy one because I don't think their wedding shower is worthy of an entrance fee and a gift.  For one of these, I was only invited to the fundraiser party, the actual wedding was only for their 50 closest friends and family!  And multiple people told me I was being rude.  I need new New England friends, apparently. 

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    Literally I've been invited to 4 of these in the past two years and people act like I'M the crazy one because I don't think their wedding shower is worthy of an entrance fee and a gift.  For one of these, I was only invited to the fundraiser party, the actual wedding was only for their 50 closest friends and family!  And multiple people told me I was being rude.  I need new New England friends, apparently. 

    Tongue Tied To actually be called rude because you declined an invitation and don't want to spend YOUR money on their wedding? 

    I really don't get some people.  

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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

    I'm from New England and have never heard of this before! A ticket to enter? I sure as hell wouldn't go either!

     

    Literally I've been invited to 4 of these in the past two years and people act like I'M the crazy one because I don't think their wedding shower is worthy of an entrance fee and a gift.  For one of these, I was only invited to the fundraiser party, the actual wedding was only for their 50 closest friends and family!  And multiple people told me I was being rude.  I need new New England friends, apparently. 

    I think you need new NE friends.  I live near Boston, and have never heard of such a thing.  I would be shocked, horrified, and offended if I was asked to purchase a ticket, or asked to attend a gift-giving event but not considered good enough for the wedding.  /smh 

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    I second this ^^^. What the what!?

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    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

    oh dear lord... 

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    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

    Assigned to bring the CAKE!?!?!  I don't even know what to say to that. 

    I don't think the parents wanted to purchase anything. The party was at their house, so that seemed like the extent of their contributions.

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    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

    WHAT!?! 

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    imageLiz4444:
    Ugh, what's next... Bring your own cake?

    I was invited to a potluck birthday party for a 3 year old recently. I was assigned to bring the cake. Um... no! I didn't go. I RSVP'd no in advance, so hopefully they got a cake some other way.

    Assigned to bring the CAKE!?!?!  I don't even know what to say to that. 

    I don't think the parents wanted to purchase anything. The party was at their house, so that seemed like the extent of their contributions.

    OMG. I hope they got enough "no's" to have SOME realization that maybe this great idea wasn't going to work...
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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

    I'm from New England and have never heard of this before! A ticket to enter? I sure as hell wouldn't go either!

    Yeah, I'm from New England, too, and have never heard of this. It sounds more like a southern thing to me maybe

    no no no no no not a Southern thing at all. I have never heard of it and have only been to weddings down here.

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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

    I'm from New England and have never heard of this before! A ticket to enter? I sure as hell wouldn't go either!

    Yeah, I'm from New England, too, and have never heard of this. It sounds more like a southern thing to me maybe? 

    no no no no no not a Southern thing at all. I have never heard of it and have only been to weddings down here.


    Also a Southerner and have never heard of this.
    Can someone please explain what the Jack and Jill thing is or what that means?
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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 

    I'm from New England and have never heard of this before! A ticket to enter? I sure as hell wouldn't go either!

    Yeah, I'm from New England, too, and have never heard of this. It sounds more like a southern thing to me maybe? 

    no no no no no not a Southern thing at all. I have never heard of it and have only been to weddings down here.


    Also a Southerner and have never heard of this.
    Can someone please explain what the Jack and Jill thing is or what that means?

     

    Big party.  Includes people not invited to the wedding.  Host sells tickets to get in to the party and they provide some beer/snacks,  The party includes a bunch of games to help raise money for the couple.  All the money, including that which you won, is typically given to the couple at the end of the night.

    ::CRINGE::



    Oh my, that sounds like a whole bunch of tacky.... I also hate anything where I'm expected to play a game and donate winnings. Just ask for a donation and skip the act.

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    while horribly tacky - I also wish people wouldn't GO.  That will keep people from doing this stuff.  "Oh- I tried to charge my guests and no one came???". 

    Instead, they are saying "Oh- people came and had no problem with it!  Everyone had a great time!". 

    You're so right.  I probably wouldn't go to something like this, but I'm also a person who refuses to go to Jack and Jill wedding showers where you have to buy a "ticket."  I'm from the Midwest and find this abhorrent, but apparently they're all the rage in New England.  WTF? 



    I am Midwest transplant into New England as well. I think its more of a certain "class" of people who like these. None of my friends would ever do this. We decline all of these when invited.
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  • What an awful thing! If you can't afford to throw your kid a party, don't. It's not up to your kid's friends' parents to host your bash.

     Just as concerning to me was the one commenter who dubbed it rude for a guest not to bring a gift, considering she spent money on them for food and entertainment. Again, it is not your guests' responsibility to help you break even on a party you chose to throw for your kid. That's right on up there with expecting wedding guests to give a gift of the same monetary value as their dinner at the reception. SMH. I just don't get it.

     
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