After 3 consecutive losses in the past year, DH and I are currently 5w2 days with our 4th pg. I'm just curious how you ladies, after losing, pass the time and not freak out all the time!?! I'm struggling. It's an all consuming issue for me, all i think about even at work. Wish I could just fast forward to the 2nd tri : How do you girls focus on other things and "pass the time" ???
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I work as much OT as they'll let me have at work, sleeping and doing things around the house. (We just moved in last August so there are plenty of things for me to do to keep busy)
In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11.
Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind
Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me
Missing you tonight, see you again sometime
For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight
I'll love you forever
I'll like you for always
Now and Forever
My baby you'll be
Honestly it wasn't easy. Every day was a struggle and every time I went to the bathroom was a nightmare. I suppose I just did the best I could to keep busy. Find a movie to watch to help you escape from your PgAL brain, exercise to get those endorphins, talk to people, and I blogged a lot too. It's not easy. But at some point it gets easier.
BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
I have a mild panic attack leading up to every appointment. Honestly, passing the time between appointments was the hardest, I just focused on doing housework (when I had the energy), working overtime, spending time with DH and our dog.
I know I didn't really offer any specific things, but I really just wanted you to know you aren't alone.
BFP #1 11/27/11 EDD 08/08/12 M/C 01/27/12 12 wks 2 days
BFP #2 04/25/12 EDD 01/04/13(?) confirmed ectopic 05/16/12 6 wks 5 days 2 doses of MTX-Lost left tube on 05/25/12
Back to TTC, earlier than originally expected.
BFP #3 01/05/13 EDD 09/17/13 u/s 1/24/13-great appt, measuring 2 days ahead, NT scan 3/11/13-great scan measuring 4 days ahead, A/S 4/29/13-another great scan can't wait to meet my baby BOY!!!!!
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One day at a time. I'm 16w3d and still a paranoid freak. Every appointment is scary, but I go in hoping for the best, knowing that I feel pregnant. It is a little easier now that I have started feeling the baby move. In first tri, I just told myself that I would make it to the next week. Each week was a new goal. Making it pass loss dates was a goal. Hearing the heartbeat was a goal. Second tri was a goal.
There were some points early on that I would forget or ignore that I was pregnant to keep my mind from gig crazy. I tried to follow as normal a routine as possible, minus drinking and heavy lifting.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
DX Septate Uterus - surgery recommended
BFP 3/18/16, EDD 11/13/16 It's a boy! Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
It's worse for me because I had a second tri loss, I won't feel comfortable until we're way past that point.
Someone wisely said there will always be something to worry about - you won't stop worrying when they're born healthy, even when they're 30, you'll still be worrying. At some point you have to try to keep the anxiety in check so it doesn't take over.
**Warning: Losses and living child mentioned** BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy. BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you. BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13Myrainbowbaby!
Honestly you never stop worrying, even after having a successful term pregnancy after a loss. You just have to try and find things to fill your time, do crafts, clean, watch movies, plan lots of dinner dates with DH, exercise, go to greenhouses and festivals... Anything that keeps you looking forward to something fun/positive and keeps your mind from having time to wander.
It is really hard to stay calm after a loss. I've been just keeping myself really busy. I'm in school, I work part time, and I've been working a few days a week at my moms daycare to get out of the house and keep my mind off of things. When I'm home, I'm usually in bed or something since I've been so tired. The last week or so has really gone by quickly. I hope that you are able to find something to help you through this ((hugs))
I wanted to cry every day in the beginning but my dr was wonderful. He actually saw me once a week for the entire first tri. Hang in there!!!
m/c #1 6/30/05
m/c #2 9/18/06
m/c #3 9/18/08
BFP 10/21/12....EDD 7/6/13....Praying this is my sticky baby.
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In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be
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I have a mild panic attack leading up to every appointment. Honestly, passing the time between appointments was the hardest, I just focused on doing housework (when I had the energy), working overtime, spending time with DH and our dog.
I know I didn't really offer any specific things, but I really just wanted you to know you aren't alone.
BFP #2 04/25/12 EDD 01/04/13(?) confirmed ectopic 05/16/12 6 wks 5 days 2 doses of MTX-Lost left tube on 05/25/12 Back to TTC, earlier than originally expected.
BFP #3 01/05/13 EDD 09/17/13 u/s 1/24/13-great appt, measuring 2 days ahead, NT scan 3/11/13-great scan measuring 4 days ahead, A/S 4/29/13-another great scan can't wait to meet my baby BOY!!!!!
My Blog
My Sweet (and Spoiled) Furbaby Cali
PgAL/PAL Welcome
There were some points early on that I would forget or ignore that I was pregnant to keep my mind from gig crazy. I tried to follow as normal a routine as possible, minus drinking and heavy lifting.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia
MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
BFP 1/11/18, EDD 9/21/18
It's worse for me because I had a second tri loss, I won't feel comfortable until we're way past that point.
Someone wisely said there will always be something to worry about - you won't stop worrying when they're born healthy, even when they're 30, you'll still be worrying. At some point you have to try to keep the anxiety in check so it doesn't take over.
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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