Intro and vent

LoriMM · May 2013

Hi ladies! I've been pretty much lurking for a while just looking for answers to questions, but I thought I should introduce myself. Plus I have a little bit of a vent!

My name is Lori and my little boy Elias will be a year old tomorrow. I'm 33 and a teacher so I'm looking forward to spending the whole summer with my little man!

So since we've gotten closer to Eli's birthday, so many people have been asking when we're going have "the next one." I get that they are mostly just trying to be nice but it's really getting annoying. Except for close family, no one really knows our situation. It was a really big deal for us to decide to have a child in the first place. I have a chronic autoimmune disorder so my health is always kind of up in the air. My husband and I are both teachers so we don't make a ton of money and it's sometimes difficult financially. I would love to have another child, but there's a good chance Eli will be an only child...and I'm ok with that.

I just get annoyed when people ask others about having children. They don't even give a second thought to asking about really personal things. What if the person you are talking to can't have children? What if, like my own mother, they had complications during delivery and had to have a hysterectomy before leaving the hospital? I just wish they would think a little bit before they open their mouth!

Thanks for reading this far! Just needed to get that out!

giggles0918 · May 2013

Welcome and I'm sorry you keep getting personal questions. We're expecting a second and now I'm getting the question was this planned? I tell them my family planning is none of their business.

I would tell people if we have news to share you'll be sure to let them know. There is also a One and Done board you might want to check out - they might be able to help you better.

acbfreire · May 2013

I get what you say. We may be one and done. DH and I are not sure about being financially able to have another one (plus we don't have any family around, so it is hard to think about another LO since DD does not sleep well).

We have friends that make us sound bad when we say we might be done, but they are not here caring for DD and paying the bills.

MrsColvin · May 2013

Welcome. I think people just don't understand that some things are none of their business. With us people say it all the time. I have no tubes so another baby isn't happening for us. But i tell people if they aren't helping us raise them then they have no right to ask about more.

kpearse99 · May 2013

Welcome

Am I alone in the fact that I don't get offended by those questions?? I think I've always kind of been like that.... esp. with being pregnant. I know a lot of people HATE when random people, or even people they know, would come up and rub their belly or ask to touch the belly, but I couldn't care less. I loved it... And I'm the same way now, i don't mind when people ask about future babies. Maybe I'm just weird! haha

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