Hello, I am 9 wks along with our second child. We have told immediate family and close friends that are in our lives daily only because I have had severe morning sickness and we needed the support. We decided to not tell my husband's family until July, mainly to get through the first trimester. But also because they really stress me out. They do not live nearby, and they are rude, self absorbed, all about drama kind of people. They do not participate in our lives often and when they do, it is a huge ordeal. My in laws we a source of major stress to me during my first pregnancy, and this one will be my last - I want to have a more peaceful journey. We invited all of my husbands family to visit at 4th of July, and normally any invite to them requires a lot of babysitting, begging, etc. just to get them here. This time we agreed to just extend the invitation and leave it at that. I guess old habits die hard tough and yesterday my husband called his brother to persuade them to visit and during this conversation, my husband told his brother about the pregnancy. What's done is done, I know that it will be a short time now before news gets to my mother in law... However, I am really furious with my husband. When I addressed this issue with him he just shrugged it off. But to me this was a huge violation of trust. Any thoughts out there on how to process this with my husband? Also, my instinct tells me to completely ignore my in laws to avoid the stress they bring, I also don't want to be rude, like they are. And I understand that they are my son's family too - my own mother is dead, and my mother-inlaw is his only grandmother.