God Parents?

Cranky22 · May 2013

Has anyone chose their babies God Parents yet and if so how did you ask them? I'm looking for some cute ideas.

BabyCampbell312 · May 2013

I personally think it depends on your idea of what "god parents" are....

I have friends that have god parents and those people are just there for support and advice and what not. While to others, god parents are those that will be responsible for your children if something were to happen to you.

If its the second one, I think its more of a serious talk you need to have with them, to make sure it is something that they can and are willing to take on. We had close friends that we asked to be god parents (be responsible for our children if something happened to us) and they were not comfortable with it.

So for me and DH, we think if you are asking someone to become the guardian of your children if something were to happen, that's a serious conversation that you need to have with them and isn't a cutesy thing.

LuClo · May 2013

For us, god parents are the people standing up before God and taking responsibility for your child's spiritual wellbeing. My husband is Greek Orthodox, so that limited our option pool since the god parents also have to be GO. I would have loved to have chosen one of my sisters, but couldn't. It will be his older brother, who was also our wedding sponsor, it's tradition and it was pretty much just assumed by all. If something happened to us his brother wouldn't be the caretaker though- that's a whole separate ball of wax.

LuClo · May 2013

Just an off-shoot: if you do view the godparents as someone to care for your child should you die, a church ceremony and serious conversation are not going to cut it. That sort of arrangement needs to be written into a legal document, there should probably be a lawyer, or at least a notary involved. In the messy post-disaster fallout family and child protection are not going to adhere to a conversation.

IrishPiratess · May 2013

we're getting ready to ask a very dear friend of mine and her husband to be god parents. to us this means taking care of the LO if something should happen to us.

We plan to go out to a nice dinner and chat about it then. Nothing frilly or cute about it.

Cranky22 · May 2013

The god parents we chose will not be responsible for our child if something were to happen to us. We are choosing my brother and my aunt.

LuciiLovesHanz · May 2013

Ok, total offshoot from the OP... but how many of you are picking God parents that are close to you in age? To me, I am looking for more of someone who will help guide my child as a Christian, and help teach the child about God's infinite love (please don't bash my beliefs), so we are thinking of a family around the age of my parents (late 40's early 50's). I have no idea where to start with the whole "who takes care of the child if something happens to DH and I", as we are the first ones to have children, and most of our friends are in their early 20's, and single. I am a little uncomfortable placing my child with a single person who has not considered raising a child, especially if something happens to us suddenly. Thoughts?

OP: I think its a great idea to ask them in a sweet way, as this is a moment your child's God Parents will remember forever. Maybe you could pray together and ask God to guide them and support them in their journey, and then have the big conversation afterward. Again, this goes back to what you think the job of your child's God Parents will be, You could also close in prayer to set the tone of you 4 as a united front with Christ. You could also give them faith related gifts (a cross for their home, family bible, etc) and ask while they open the gifts. If you are wanting this couple to take care of your children if something happened to you, I think it is wise to have the conversation before involving a lawyer, as this can be a big decision for the couple you are asking. You could, of course, speak to your lawyer before having the conversation with them, and have the paper work ready and handy if they are head over heals for this idea. Hope this helps.

inthelost · May 2013

I'm not religious so I probably won't have god parents for her but should something happen to me I'd probably want her to go to my sister and brother in law. but, you have to choose people that are special to you.

3222w27thst · May 2013

I have chosen my good friend from high school. I know if something happens then she will take care of my daughter like its her own plus be great with advice n etc. I just started calling her God Mom and one day asked her do you even want that position... But were so close she doesn't have a choice. (not saying it to be mean but that's just how me and mine get down) We don't take it offensive

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