Crazy neighbor... Help

Liz4444 · May 2013

The other day, my mother was playing with li outside and met 2 year old twin boys and their grandmother who live around the corner. Yesterday, at 9am they rang my doorbell and came barging in unannounced. The kids are terrors and the grandmother is a pushy Israeli... Any of you with Israeli relatives, um, FIL's entire side, will understand what I mean. She walked in, uninvited, took her shoes off, and let these kids run wild. Meanwhile, li was terrified and I was trying to leave the house.

Grandma thought we were going to have a play date and when I said we were going out, she said, ok, we will come back. Apparently these kids have no friends, take no classes, and grandma thinks we are going to be her daily play date.

So, 5 minutes ago, I hear noise at my front door and my doorbell rings. I am hiding in bed ignoring it. These twins are banging on my door screaming "lilah, lilah!". I'm sure they know I'm fully ignoring because my car is in the driveway, it's not even a car I can pretend is someone else's, it's a red Yukon XL and there is no room for it in the garage.

What do I do ladies? I want to go to Target and they are probably camped out on my front step. What do I say?

[Deleted User] · May 2013

Wow, that really sucks! I have a neighbor (the one with the barking dog) that until we had a little argument I would have to avoid like the plague...or I'd get stuck talking to him for an hour. I'd have to pretend to be on my cell phone just to walk to my car, otherwise, I'd be standing in my driveway for who knows how long listening to him talk about NOTHING. I'm thankful for the argument we had, now he steers clear of me, thank goodness!

You should barge out of your front door like you're in a rush to get somewhere and act like you have no time to talk. Consistently tell her you're busy and don't budge on that because if you do she'll continue to barge in on you.

Why are people so weird!!

eggymaye · May 2013

Can you sneak out the back? That is really beyond rude, I wouldn't contact the mom because I have a feeling the apple wouldn't fall far from the tree on that one.

Liz4444 · May 2013

Vikingsfan 71713:
Wow! I guess it must be something that's cultural since you said it was an Israeli thing, but how horribly rude! Can you talk to the mom since the grandma isn't getting the point? Like we can meet your kids at the park, but when we are home we have story time, errands, nap time, etc? If that doesn't work I guess I would just keep ignoring the door bell and hope they get the point.Sorry you are dealing with this!

I've never met the mother, she works full time in NYC. They brought the grandmother over from Israel because the nanny quit.

Liz4444 · May 2013

eggymaye:
Can you sneak out the back? That is really beyond rude, I wouldn't contact the mom because I have a feeling the apple wouldn't fall far from the tree on that one.

My car is right in front of my front door, maybe I should start parking on the side of the house. She's the husbands mother...

Liz4444 · May 2013

Just looked outside, they aren't there... Must get li dressed and run!!!!

eggymaye · May 2013

Liz4444:
eggymaye:
Can you sneak out the back? That is really beyond rude, I wouldn't contact the mom because I have a feeling the apple wouldn't fall far from the tree on that one.
My car is right in front of my front door, maybe I should start parking on the side of the house. She's the husbands mother...

Oh man, even worse that she is the MIL! One of my best friend's MIL is pushy like that and she can't say ANYTHING and her husband won't do jack about the way she acts. Just out of curiosity, where in the NYC burbs are you?

melissabshelton · May 2013

Those are the times I throw the kids clothes in a bag, grab a hair brush, and make a run for it. They're little, they can get dressed in the car in times like that. We live next to SMIL so I've had to do the grab and run more than a few times lately to get out of all day visits over nothing.

PrimRoseMama · May 2013

I would have had issues with someone barging into my house like that.

I would continue to ignore if they show up for playdates out of the blue. Are they even attended? Maybe Grandma sees help in another adult female (if the twins are insane) and is desperate? I don't know, but I would have issues with this too.

Can you talk to the mother of the twins? Maybe explain that you would love to SCHEDULE a play date but that you can't have them showing up unannounced.

PrimRoseMama · May 2013

Liz4444:
Vikingsfan 71713:
Wow! I guess it must be something that's cultural since you said it was an Israeli thing, but how horribly rude! Can you talk to the mom since the grandma isn't getting the point? Like we can meet your kids at the park, but when we are home we have story time, errands, nap time, etc? If that doesn't work I guess I would just keep ignoring the door bell and hope they get the point.Sorry you are dealing with this!
I've never met the mother, she works full time in NYC. They brought the grandmother over from Israel because the nanny quit.

I almost don't blame the nanny LOL from the sounds of it. Holy hell.

supersarah77 · May 2013

Oh my gosh, what an awkward situation! You must feel like a prisoner in your own home never knowing when they'll show up and barge in. If it's cultural she may just have no idea she's being rude and may respond well to your guidance. I think I'd say something like, "Hey, we should set up a play date sometime so we make sure it's a good time for all of us. That's what we usually do and it seems to work well. How about Monday at 2:00 at the park?"

arlingirl · May 2013

Eek. I'm unfortunately too nice for my own good most of the time, but this might be a situation where you have to be forthright. Is there no garage to park and hide??

Liz4444 · May 2013

eggymaye:
Liz4444:
eggymaye:
Can you sneak out the back? That is really beyond rude, I wouldn't contact the mom because I have a feeling the apple wouldn't fall far from the tree on that one.

My car is right in front of my front door, maybe I should start parking on the side of the house. She's the husbands mother...
Oh man, even worse that she is the MIL!  One of my best friend's MIL is pushy like that and she can't say ANYTHING and her husband won't do jack about the way she acts. Just out of curiosity, where in the NYC burbs are you?  

We are in Essex county.

Liz4444 · May 2013

PrimRoseMama:
I would have had issues with someone barging into my house like that.nbsp;I would continue to ignore if they show up for playdates out of the blue. Are they even attended? nbsp;Maybe Grandma sees help in another adult female if the twins are insane and is desperate? I don't know, but I would have issues with this too.nbsp;Can you talk to the mother of the twins? Maybe explain that you would love to SCHEDULE a play date but that you can't have them showing up unannounced.nbsp;

I told DH he has to go over on Sunday and talk to the parents. These boys seriously scare the bejesus out of li, and she loves being around other kids. We do classes almost every day, she has never been scared of anyone. We are just in the between seasons period so we don't have anything in the mornings...

I don't even want to schedule a play date, I don't need to befriend and hang out with the grandmother. If I wanted to chill with a woman in her 60's, my mother and her BFF love 10 minutes away.

atlvol · May 2013

Oh my! I'm sorry you are having to deal with that in your own home. As some of the PP suggested, tell her that you would be happy to schedule something in advance. I hope you got out of there today!

Erinm278 · May 2013

I would just be up front and tell the Grandmother this is not going to happen every day and that she can't just waltz into your house. If you sneak out, then you will have to continue sneaking around. Better to get it out on the table IMO.

eggymaye · May 2013

Liz4444:
eggymaye:
Liz4444:
eggymaye:
Can you sneak out the back? That is really beyond rude, I wouldn't contact the mom because I have a feeling the apple wouldn't fall far from the tree on that one.
My car is right in front of my front door, maybe I should start parking on the side of the house. She's the husbands mother...
Oh man, even worse that she is the MIL! One of my best friend's MIL is pushy like that and she can't say ANYTHING and her husband won't do jack about the way she acts. Just out of curiosity, where in the NYC burbs are you?
We are in Essex county.

NICE. I miss Jersey so much, if DH's job wasn't here on the Island I would be back there.

Liz4444 · May 2013

etoille:
Serious question will you have to see these people temple?

She said her cousin is at our temple, don't know about them.

Liz4444 · May 2013

arlingirl:
Eek. I'm unfortunately too nice for my own good most of the time, but this might be a situation where you have to be forthright. Is there no garage to park and hide?? ;nbsp;

The spot in the garage I can fit in is taken up by DH's piece of crap '80's MB roadster that doesn't work and he should have sold with cash for clunkers!

Carrie3102 · May 2013

Liz4444:
arlingirl:
Eek. I'm unfortunately too nice for my own good most of the time, but this might be a situation where you have to be forthright. Is there no garage to park and hide?? ;nbsp;
The spot in the garage I can fit in is taken up by DH's piece of crap '80's MB roadster that doesn't work and he should have sold with cash for clunkers!

Yikes. So sorry. I would just tell her you don't have time for them.

the part about the car got me on a rampage about the 51 chevy in my spot in the garage... it doesn't work either and needs to go!

Liz4444 · May 2013

Carrie3102:
Liz4444:
arlingirl:
Eek. I'm unfortunately too nice for my own good most of the time, but this might be a situation where you have to be forthright. Is there no garage to park and hide?? ;nbsp;

The spot in the garage I can fit in is taken up by DH's piece of crap '80's MB roadster that doesn't work and he should have sold with cash for clunkers!
Yikes.  So sorry.  I would just tell her you don't have time for them.
the part about the car got me on a rampage about the 51 chevy in my spot in the garage... it doesn't work
either and needs to go!

He claims he's getting a new battery for it and one of the guys from the office is going to take him to a place he knows to get it all fixed up in the next few weekends... Not only do I doubt it's going to happen, but I don't care. His uncle wants to give him a few thousand for it, I'm like, take it!!!! He won't.

I'm in our basement and it leads out to our backyard. I keep thinking I'm seeing movement outside and paranoid it's then and they snuck around back.

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