Name dilemma

MagickalNarwhal · April 2013

Our top girl name choice is Esther. Its a family name for me and my partner and it's our favorite by a LOT.

I asked for feedback on the name board and a few people brought up the horror movie Orphan, which I didn't know about. It's about a family that adopts a girl named Esther and she ends up being a psycho killer. The tag line is There's something wrong with Esther.

I feel like this is a bad enough association with the name that we should reconsider. The people I've talked to think it's fine but I don't think that they get the extra layer of complexity that a horrible anti adoption association brings.

Thoughts?

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GWUAlum · April 2013

My husband says its not a good movie and no one but a handful of people will ever remember it. He said he associates the name with Sandford and Son not the movie. I do not think it would stop us from using a name if it had been a name we have picked out.

GWUAlum · April 2013

jalara48:
The Name board is all about attacking people. I went there once for feedback on a name and was overwhelming attacked for a common and current name. It was foolish.
They're just looking for entertainment. Go with what you and your husband decide on - it's all about your family, not some random people on the internet.

I have to agree with this too!

Karen1024 · April 2013

I totally get feeling neurotic about adoption related issues! I would stick with Esther which is a beautiful name!! Unless you really don't think you can get past it. I'm learning posting on these boards can be hazardous as much as helpful! Best Wishes!

Dr.Loretta · April 2013

Let's put it this way: my nephew is named after a character in Pet Sematary 2. I doubt most people know that. And there will *always* be someone who finds a problem with a name.

Stick with Esther. I like it

MagickalNarwhal · April 2013

Omg yeah the replies were totally kind and lovely, not attacking at all. Someone just brought that association up and it made me reconsider, specifically in light of me being really sensitive to crappy portrayals of adoption in the media. No one said that I shouldn't use it per se, though there were def people who didn't like the name. That's fine w me, I was just more worried about the adoptionspecific stuff!

Kirstybaby · April 2013

Yesgo with Esther! Don't let anyone else change your mind. :

maryoosa · April 2013

When I think of the name Esther I think of a gorgeous woman I went to school with, long long long blonde hair, big full lips, clear perfect skin. I wouldn't have had any idea about the movie- I never saw it.

alphalyrae · April 2013

I wouldn't associate the name with that movie at all. First to come to mind is a friend's wife, and the second is the biblical association. I think it's a nice name, a little outdated but it's a breath of fresh air compared to some other names out there.

arbutusbride · April 2013

I went to college with a woman named Esther. She was awesome and so much fun to be around.

If you like it, go with it. You are the ones who have to live with it not your neighbors, your friends, or strangers. Well, maybe they do but it shouldn't interfere with their lives.

ycristina84 · April 2013

jalara48:
The Name board is all about attacking people. I went there once for feedback on a name and was overwhelming attacked for a common and current name. It was foolish.
They're just looking for entertainment. Go with what you and your husband decide on - it's all about your family, not some random people on the internet.

I don't think that's a fair thing to say. I used to be very active on that board, and while they are very honest, they do not attack. People aren't honest to hurt feelings, or for entertainment, they are on that board to give their opinion. Not to say "that's wonderful!" to every name suggested, as that would make for a very boring board.

A lot of us take names and the history of names more serious than others. There is definetly a general concesus on the board as far taste (no made up names, misspellings are never a good idea...) but it doesn't come from a bad place. I'm sorry you were sensitive to their feedback, but the women there are also very very very helpful and I have seen lots of great advice.

SoSweet06 · April 2013

I'll be the odd-one-out and say that I wouldn't name an adopted child Esther...I am incredibly neurotic about things like that though.

But, the name doesn't have a special meaning for me either. Maybe if it did, I would be able to get over it. Like a lot of people mentioned...it wasn't a big movie, so most people probably wouldn't make the connection.