December 2013 Moms
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Sad news
I had my first scan this morning at 12 wks 5 days and they found a sac but no baby. It's classed as a phantom pregnancy as everything was there and progressing as normal, except there was just no baby. I'm booked for a dc next Friday. Obviously DH and I are devastated but we are keen to move on and try again in a few months.
Thanks for all the laughs and good times ladies. I hope your dec 13 babies are all bouncy, healthy and beautiful.
Thanks for all the laughs and good times ladies. I hope your dec 13 babies are all bouncy, healthy and beautiful.
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Re: Sad news
DD #2: EDD July 2016
Emily and Brad; married 12/27/08
began TTC 10/2011
BFP#1 12/9/11 (EDD 8/13/12)- our sweet little girl diagnosed with Turner's Syndrome and large cystic hygroma 2/2/12; D&E at 16 weeks 2/24/12
began TTCAL 8/12
BFP#2 10/28/12 (EDD 7/6/13)- cp at 5 weeks 11/5/12
BFP#3 12/4/12 (EDD 8/12/13)- cp at 5 weeks 12/14/12
2012 was a bust... here's to 2013
blood work normal (1/2013)... HSG normal (2/2013)
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
DS born Dec 10, 2013
When we found the ward, they left us in the public waiting room for 15 mins with other people and children, even though we were visibly devastated. Then the dr eventually came out and asked me why I was upset and why I'd been sent to him. We told him to check his notes! Then he asked how many weeks pregnant I was and I was so mad by then i just shouted "we'll you'd know I'm not pregnant anymore if you checked your notes". This was all in the public waiting room.
Then he kept leaving the room and leaving the door wide open onto the waiting room so everyone could see in. I was told to think about whether I wanted to wait for it to pass, or if I wanted to book in for d and c and to call back when i decided. I did 2 hours later and they'd already lost my file.
I hope nobody has to go through this and if you do get bad news at any point, i truly hope you're treated like humans and not inconvenient cattle like DH and I.
I am so very sorry for your loss AND how you were treated. It amazes me how someone in that position could treat someone going through what you are going through in that manner. It's just plain wrong.
I had a very similar experience with my mc, except I was alone and they had me sit in a small closet-room until they could contact my doctor. It made me feel so much worse and again, I am sorry you were not treated with the compassion you deserve.
I hope you are able to put that experience behind you and allow yourself to grieve. I am thinking of you.
A little bit about me...
Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08
DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010
Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d
Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)
BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!
"If anyone asks me how many children I have, the answer is 4. Just two of them live in Heaven."
*All are welcome in my posts*BFP #1 - 07-15-12; Natural MC 07-18-12
BFP #2 - 09-29-12; U/S showed baby stopped growing @ 5wks 4days - 10-30-12; D&C - 10-31-12
BFP #3 - 04-10-13; Third time is a charm... Stick, baby, stick!!!
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 -
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