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Can't decide about work!!!!!

carebear1005carebear1005
in March 2013 Moms
I've seen the struggles many have gone through about returning to work and hoping to get some perspective from you all on whether to work part time. I do have the option to be SAHM again my other 2 are 7 and 9. We could live off DH income but it would be tight again for sure! We have small home, one car etc. I am giving up my FT position but have the option of PT. sounds good except this would mean daycare center for my LO as I have no family and DH works when I would. I've never used daycare and didn't want to start now but I'm in late 30's now and it would be harder to get back into career at 40. I do need adult stimulation so working PT would be good for me, as well as my family as its amazing money doing sales. Downside too is 6 months out if the year, those 2 days I work 1011 hour days. Also work every other Saturday. So can't decide and it's driving me crazy!! Wwyd?? I know I have to decide what's best for my family but I'm full of emotion right now!!!!
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  • carebear1005carebear1005
    Phone post, sorry for SP errors
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  • brachysirabrachysira member
    Work.  You wisely have thought ahead and think you have a better chance of working the next 20 years if you work now.  That's a big incentive.  Plus, as someone considering staying home, one income is terrifying unless you feel really secure.  Daycare has pros and cons, but its not all bad.  But if you are going to have a weird schedule, daycare may take some research.  Where I live, you can only go full time in most centers.
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  • sarahbethski04sarahbethski04 member
    I think you really need to sit down and weigh the pros and cons of both. If working those couple of days gives you the adult stimulation and enough money to make it worthwhile after daycare costs then go for it. If you find that the thought of daycare is just too scary then stay home.
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  • emriley84emriley84 member

    I work part time, 2 12hr shifts/week, which turns into 14hrs with commute. I work 7p-730a. The kids go to daycare the morning after I work so I can sleep. The days I work are tough, I am exhausted, but I feel like I have the best of both worlds. I'm a SAHM 5 days/week, but still have a career, and bring in a decent amount of money to contribute to the household. I haven't returned to work yet, but DS#1 goes to daycare 1-2days/week, I usually work every 3rd weekend, so it turns out to be about 5 days/month he is in daycare.

    I think the daycare is great for him. He is learning so much, and it's getting him used to a school setting for when he will go. He has a late bday so he will only be 3 when he starts pre-k, so I think it's great for him

    All that being said, you have to do whats best for your family!

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  • Kota26Kota26 member
    I would say work.  I was just offered a full time teaching position that I have been doing part time...so I was going through a similar internal struggle.  I figure if I am going to be paying for daycare, we might as well have him there a few hours longer and double my salary which we can put into savings/mortgage/student loans/etc. 
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  • carebear1005carebear1005
    I guess I need to add that with my first 2 I stayed home partly from wanting too but partly because I don't trust anyone!!! I was sexually molested by my stepfather, who my mom is still married to, so I have serious trust issues. This is making it almost impossible to think about leaving him;.
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