Csection moms

Starry Again · May 2013

Csection moms

I was curious if any of you had thought yet whether you would do a RCS or try for a VBAC with future pregnancies.

Also this is weird but do you ever feel sort of cheated out of a "normal" birth? I know not all or even most vaginal births are great experiences but sometimes I feel like I am not part of the push your baby out of your vagina club and it bugs me a bit. I am sure part of this is that I never labored and was unconscious (general anesthesia) without my husband in the room during my csection. Because of this I am hoping for a VBAC next time. I also am really weirded out that the doctor had to get all up in my insides and pull out my placenta, move around my uterus, etc. Or at least so I have been told.

ETA: We also are 50/50 on 2 vs 3 kids and I think I've been told it is more risky to have a third csection but maybe I am making that up.

chricast · May 2013

Definitely doing a scheduled c section next time! I pushed for 3 hours and labored all day she was just too big to come out of me. I watched my sisters vaginal delivery including her 3rd degree tear/episiotomy...definitely don't feel like I missed out! I also had vaginal swelling and pain in addition to my csection recovery since I pushed and had so many hands up in me trying to figure out why the baby wasn't coming down! Which hurt way more then the actual csection. I am a nurse and in college I watched a c section and yes they take everything out of you it's freaky!

stephcarter · May 2013

I was a scheduled CS and i would go for RCS if I have another baby.

I don't feel cheated. Not even a little bit. I never labored, but I was awake for my CS. It was definitely strange.

candaceleigh21 · May 2013

We are one and done so question one doesnt realllly apply but my doc that I love only does scheduled sections for second births.

I do sometimes feel like I am not part of the baby out of the hooha club especially since my recovery was so horrible. I feel like things would have gone so much smoother had i been able to get him out vaginally.

Starry Again · May 2013

I am not sure if it was my csection that effed me or the complications / severe pre-e leading to my csection, but man my recovery was no bueno. I would like to avoid blood transfusions next time, please, lol.

sica077 · May 2013

Brea16:
I haven't decided conclusively which way I'll go next time around, although I'm leaning towards RCS, just because my recovery wasn't awful and now that I've been through it, I know what to expect. And while the experience wasn't a good one, as it was an emergency due to my blood pressure spiking so high I was at a risk for a stroke, the minimal amount of labor I did suffer through was AWFUL!
The only part of vaginal delivery I really feel cheated over is the immediate skin-to-skin contact right after birth. I didn't get to hold my baby for hours after the section, and that night I was sooooo sick coming off all of the drugs. But at the same time, it gave DH a very unique opportunity to really get to bond with Ev that he might not have had otherwise.
And now for my totally vain admission...I'm glad my vagina is still in tact. One of my fears was what my after-birth vagina would look like. With the section, I got to keep my pre-baby vagina. It's the only part of my body that has stayed in tact. Perhaps that's just my way of making myself feel better, but I am really am glad about it. Ha ha.

All of this, especially the bolded. Except, mine was an emergency because his heart rate dropped dramatically when they broke my water.

chricast · May 2013

Brea16:
The only part of vaginal delivery I really feel cheated over is the immediate skin-to-skin contact right after birth. I didn't get to hold my baby for hours after the section

i was really sad about this as well, we had also wanted to do delayed cord clamping since we chose not to do cord blood banking and we were not ale too.

BabyCarryingVessel · May 2013

Starry, I also had a csection under general anesthesia! May I ask what were the circumstances surrounding yours? I quickly developed pre e and HELLP syndrome. I had to be put under because of dangerously low platelets. I am sad that I didn't get to feel a contraction, although that sounds ridiculous. The saddest part was saying goodbye to DH and seeing him worry. Plus neither of us heard their first cry. We were prepared for a regular csection, but we weren't prepared for that!

Starry Again · May 2013

BabyCarryingVessel:
Starry, I also had a csection under general anesthesia! May I ask what were the circumstances surrounding yours? I quickly developed pre e and HELLP syndrome. I had to be put under because of dangerously low platelets. I am sad that I didn't get to feel a contraction, although that sounds ridiculous. The saddest part was saying goodbye to DH and seeing him worry. Plus neither of us heard their first cry. We were prepared for a regular csection, but we weren't prepared for that!

I also had HELLP after developing PIH around 34 weeks. I kept getting blood pressure spikes after that then one day at 37 weeks I had upper abdominal pain and vomiting and my blood pressure was 170/110. They saw my hemoglobin and platelet numbers were horrible and Dd was born within the hour. According to my husband I have him a super inappropriate French kiss as they wheeled me off.

Did you get the mag pump or any transfusions? Both of those were awful.

BabyCarryingVessel · May 2013

Oh, I just saw that you had severe pre e! I'm sorry, that sucks! I also had two blood transfusions and I couldn't see the girls for 12 hours because of the magnesium... uggg that was the worst!!

BabyCarryingVessel · May 2013

Starry Again:
BabyCarryingVessel:
Starry, I also had a csection under general anesthesia! May I ask what were the circumstances surrounding yours? I quickly developed pre e and HELLP syndrome. I had to be put under because of dangerously low platelets. I am sad that I didn't get to feel a contraction, although that sounds ridiculous. The saddest part was saying goodbye to DH and seeing him worry. Plus neither of us heard their first cry. We were prepared for a regular csection, but we weren't prepared for that!
 
I also had HELLP after developing PIH around 34 weeks. I kept getting blood pressure spikes after that then one day at 37 weeks I had upper abdominal pain and vomiting and my blood pressure was 170/110. They saw my hemoglobin and platelet numbers were horrible and Dd was born within the hour. According to my husband I have him a super inappropriate French kiss as they wheeled me off.
 
Did you get the mag pump or any transfusions? Both of those were awful. 

Sounds like we had the exact same birthing experience! Haha! I also had to deliver suddenly at 36 weeks 5 days. I just felt "off" that day. We were so scared! I thought I was dying!

clrgrdfrk · May 2013

stephcarter:
I was a scheduled CS and i would go for RCS if I have another baby.I don't feel cheated. Not even a little bit. I never labored, but I was awake for my CS. It was definitely strange.nbsp;

All of this. On a rare occasion I feel a little sad I remember, hey I have a healthy, happy most of the time, baby girl. If we do try for another one, it will be a RCS, no doubt. I don't think my recovery was too bad, I am sure other ladies had it way worse.

The weirdest part was after I was stitched back up and they had to push on my uterus to get to blood to come out my vag... That part was odd.

HamptonsMama · May 2013

I had a scheduled cs because LO was breech. I must admit that my entire hospital experience was pretty amazing. I had wonderful nurses and doctors. DH was with me and I was able to hold her and nurse her within a half hour of delivery. I am really undecided as to what I will do next time. I do feel as though as I missed out on something but what I did experience was do great I would absolutely do it again. Although five days in the hospital would be tough with another kid at home!

CnAnA · May 2013

Depends on the situation. If I am healthier and I have a perfect pregnancy, I will consider a VBAC. If I were to discover right now that I'm pg, it will be a c section.

I do not feel like my birth wasn't "real" at all. I consider myself lucky that I didn't deal with contractions and my vag wasn't torn to hell. LOL I had a ridiculously easy textbook surgery though. Recovery was cake.

That's even if we have more kids. That has not been decided yet.

NJshore40 · May 2013

Totally doing RCS mainly bc i had a terrible labor, good c sect experience, and will likely have the same issue again. I never want to feel a contraction again after pushing for 3 hours with no meds. I totally dont feel like ive missed out perhaps bc i was in labor so long. I also had tons of help and an extra 10days with my husband and inlaws bc of super storm sandy. Next time i will have less help time wise.

A lawyer friend is working on a case against VBACS and told me to not get one based on the research( or lack thereof) on the huge risk to the mom. I dont remember details, but there is a building case against it or at least making risks more well known.

Mrs_Lady · May 2013

heck no! i dont feel cheated in ANY way palease!

My husband was in the room during csection and i had to have csection my baby was breech. vbacs are done at a hospital near me and i had a friend that had her 2nd child that way.

We may be one and done though

LaurenBullock · May 2013

I will for sure have a RCS. My doctor was pretty sure for about a month before delivery that she would be a C Section baby so I had time to come to terms with it. We tried everything and I would not dilate at all Also my husband works an offshore schedule so this way we can plan it around the time he is home selfish I know flame away my C Section was easy and I had an amazing doctor and group of nurses!

Starry Again · May 2013

LauraT25:
Every once in a while someone will ask me how long I pushed and when I reply that I had a c section they get a look in their eye that makes me feel like i am not part of their elite club. One woman even said "oh, you're so lucky" and I wanted to punch her.

Yes it is the worst. I have gotten this too.

projectbaby2012 · May 2013

Mrs_Lady:
heck no! i dont feel cheated in ANY way palease!

I'm with Mrs Lady. And I feel grateful to live in a time and place where c-sections are an option - allowing me and my babies to live.

gregNamanda · May 2013

I had a c-section with DS because he was breech (at the last minute! 2 days prior to CS) and it took me a long time to come to terms with it. I did feel cheated because I wanted to experience everything. I finally came to terms with it because in the end having a healthy baby was all that mattered. With DD I was given an option to VBAC and I debated back and forth until I went into labor. I read a RCS had slightly higher risks for mom and VBAC had higher risks for baby. Ultimately,whether true or not I still opted to RCS. Recovery was fine even with an infection (yuck!) and a toddler because of my amazingly supportive DH and family.

AMT1107 · May 2013

We aren't sure about more kids right now but if we do, I will definitely have another c-section. I was induced and pushed for about 2 hours. DS's head got stuck in my pelvis and we had to do an emergency c-section because his head was too big. During the c-section I heard my doctor say "oh, no - he's stuck from pushing" They were actually yanking DS out of my pelvis because he was so stuck. After that I will not go through that, I will opt for the scheduled c-section. I didn't care how DS arrived, just that he arrived safely. So the same will go for the next if we decide to have one.

NapJunkie · May 2013

LauraT25:
RVASC811:
Uh, what? I think I'm lucky that I wasn't recovering from major surgery while caring for a newborn.... Csection moms rock!
You're sweet. I don't think there is an EASY pregnancy/delivery/recovery. Some are easier than others, in some respects, but it all sort of balances out somehow. At least that's what I tell myself. When I hear of a ridiculously easy pregnancy, labor, and delivery I just tell myself that their kid is probably not as cute as mine.

This is why I heart you

NapJunkie · May 2013

I plan to do a RCS. We know what to expect, I am terrified of uterine rupture and other VBAC complications, and after being in labor for 20 hours only to wind up with a c/s anyway, I feel like it's the more efficient way to go (does that make sense?).

I didn't feel robbed of a birthing experience, but I felt like I cheated and took the "easy" way out. Obviously I know a c/s is NOT easy, but that is how I felt during recovery. Now I don't have any feelings one way or another. My baby girl is here and wouldn't have been without the surgery, and that's all that matters.

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