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Jjohnson6212
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Making nice with BM...
Jjohnson6212
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Hi ladies.
I don't post much but do check in a bit since most of our stories tend to be similar.
My H and I Have been together for a few years now prior to that, each had a daughter of our own.. His is 8, mine is 5. Everything's great and were now pregnant with a baby boy yay!!
Well, he and BM NEVER get along. I've seen her crazy explosions, and I've also seen her court appearances. She tries to make things as difficult as possible. Up until now, I usually just stay out of it and let them bicker or fight or whatever. We have residential custody in nj... She recently abandoned her daughter and took off to nc with her new bf and their 2 kids she left without filing anything, it was basically abandonment. Well months later they go to court new CO is drawn up. She gets her x weeks in summer, a one weekend a month if she come up to nj... It is what it is.
Well, now all of a sudden she wants to play nice with me. I mean, being I'm a mother of my own I completely understand wantin to know who plays the mom role when I'm not around I don't have to worry being I have sole custody of my daughter but I can imagine what I'd worry about if someone else was around her more than me. but now she wants to do a girls day with manipedis and our girls etc. if they didn't always go at it with each other and actually have restraining orders, and so much drama I'd be willing. But now I'm curious. I dot know if I should attempt it as much as H hates it. Or what.
I just met with her to do drop off with my SD for the weekend and she was sweet. It couldn't have sounded more fake than ever. I don't know if she's changing as a person and I should open up or just stay away... She even offered to bring SD back to me incase I have the baby this weekend!
Any advice? Sorry it's so long!
I don't post much but do check in a bit since most of our stories tend to be similar.
My H and I Have been together for a few years now prior to that, each had a daughter of our own.. His is 8, mine is 5. Everything's great and were now pregnant with a baby boy yay!!
Well, he and BM NEVER get along. I've seen her crazy explosions, and I've also seen her court appearances. She tries to make things as difficult as possible. Up until now, I usually just stay out of it and let them bicker or fight or whatever. We have residential custody in nj... She recently abandoned her daughter and took off to nc with her new bf and their 2 kids she left without filing anything, it was basically abandonment. Well months later they go to court new CO is drawn up. She gets her x weeks in summer, a one weekend a month if she come up to nj... It is what it is.
Well, now all of a sudden she wants to play nice with me. I mean, being I'm a mother of my own I completely understand wantin to know who plays the mom role when I'm not around I don't have to worry being I have sole custody of my daughter but I can imagine what I'd worry about if someone else was around her more than me. but now she wants to do a girls day with manipedis and our girls etc. if they didn't always go at it with each other and actually have restraining orders, and so much drama I'd be willing. But now I'm curious. I dot know if I should attempt it as much as H hates it. Or what.
I just met with her to do drop off with my SD for the weekend and she was sweet. It couldn't have sounded more fake than ever. I don't know if she's changing as a person and I should open up or just stay away... She even offered to bring SD back to me incase I have the baby this weekend!
Any advice? Sorry it's so long!
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Re: Making nice with BM...
mani pedis, my . Homegirl is touched in the head. Or maybe she watched Stepmom/recently found out she has cancer.
Either way, sure, play nice but we aren't going anywhere together. We are not friends.
Click me, click me!
I recently had this happen with BM but I already knew she had her own agenda, my assumption was right.
She kept saying she wanted to be friends with me and wanted to come over and have dinner! LMBO.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
Be nice and polite, but keep your distance. She is not your friend, especially since she does not get along with your H.
She probably has her own agenda. Don't trust her.
My SS's BM, my DH and I have always had a cordial and borderline friendly relationship. We've gone as far as get together to work on SS's big school projects (because I'm more artsy than she is) and prep birthday parties together for SS.
But there have always been these little comments here and there when I can see there's more than meets the eye. Recently she dumped her boyfriend and now expects my DH to pay for what her BF was paying for at her house, and she's using details and information that she's gathered from all these years of being "friendly". She's taken pictures of our house, of our cars... but since I've never actually told her much, or let her into my house she has little to build her BS case. But, she's gone as far as to say that the reason DH and her were cordial and friendly to each other was because they were still lovers (which is absurd). So, just... be polite, but be smart...