I find that my personal opinions of names align quite well with this board, but it feels like in the real world (outside TB) that I'm in the minority. I am not a fan at all of youneek spellings, boy names on girls, last names as first names or made-up names in general.
I was reading a thread on a facebook group that I go to frequently and the topic of youneek names came up. The majority of posters talked about how much they loved different spellings and masculine names on girls, etc. I stated me opinion (as above) and only had a handful of people agree with me. One of the names that got a ton of praise was Myk.ynlei (exact spelling, minus the . of course). What?? I had to hold my tounge on that one of course as it was her daughter's name and not a 'name idea'.. but yikes.
Do you find that you're in the minority with name opinions in the 'real world' too? <- referring to those with the standard board sensibilities
Re: Opinions on 'unique' names (in real life)
Otherwise, my friends have very sensible naming styles. I particularly enjoy the names chosen by my ethnic friends. They constantly surprise me with beautiful names that transcend language barriers.
The rest of the world? Not so much. Even people I'm just FB friends with, ie went to high school with, seem to think unique is better and less boring than traditional names and spellings. Sigh.
Some of my friends name their kids with unique names and others use more traditional names.
To each their own. It's not my kid.
*shrugs*
I tend to align with people as far as name opinions go.
That said, my DD has a very Gaelic name that people tend to side-eye at times.
I have the unfortunate experience of living in an area where misspelled names and boy names on girls...not to mention misspelled boy names on girls are ridiculously popular. It's terrible.I'm definitely in the minority in this area.
However, my college friends have much better taste in names and those are the ones I usually talk to.
While I do have a few friends and family who favor occupational names or boys names on girls, the vast majority of my peeps pick properly spelled, recognizable names.
Maybe it is because I live in Portlandia, but there are a lot of uncommon, underused, or ethnic names that people around town are picking. The hipster demographic if you will. (Boys with names like Percy, Casper, Hano, Sang, Kazmer, Eamon, Emil, Isandro, Kavi) So my IRL experience with names mostly mirrors the tastes shared on this board.
My oldest two are Carys and Sawyer. Set apart, but not unique. I got hated reviews here and PMs when I decided to name my youngest James Fowler lastname and call him Fowler. It has very deep meaning for our family and we are absolutely pleased we went with this selection.
Most people around me are totally trendy...my nieces are Isabella Grace and Ryleigh. Others include Camden, Hayden, grayson...etc
My current, closer friends have chosen great, real names like Oscar, Harvey, Ernest, Emma, Aubrey, Olivia, and Chelsea.
I do, however, have some high school/Facebook "friends" who have questionable taste. Mckenna and Kash...yay, I'm side-eyeing your parents.
I actually really enjoy encountering people with unique names, meaning names I don't commonly hear. Being a name geek, I just like hearing new names, and I love when names represent an individual's history or culture. (I also like regionally or culturally distinct names for that reason even if they're not extremely uncommon...for example all the great Latino names and traditional Southern names I see in the area where I live.)
I have never understood the logic in using a common name but spelling it creatively. IMO, it feels like the worst of both worlds: the dullness of an overused name with the spelling issues of a uncommon name. That's just my style though.
I don't know that many other people with kids, but I think DH's and my style in names is definitely more "out there" than anyone else in our family, which is fine because we are more "out there!" LOL
I also live in an area with "youneek" names. I sigh in sadness every day at the list of kids in my boys' day care classes. One is Katie but it's spelled Kaaitea.
I definitely prefer real names. By real names, I mean nothing that's made up, youneek spellings, overly trendy, etc. While we won't pick the most traditional names (Mary, John, Jennifer, the super common names); we definitely won't be picking Nevaeh or Whatevaiden or Whatyvaydyn. My sisters and I all have regular names, but for the most part were the only ones in our classes with those names or maybe there was one other. Same with my husband, not heard 5x a day but a totally normal name.
I can't think of anyone I know personally that has chosen an off-the-wall name or crazy spelling. My BFF, her husband is from Kenya so her DD has two middle names - her 'American' middle name Marie, and that is followed by a Kenyan name. So other than it being appropriately cultural or ethnic (we would never use a Kenyan name since we're Irish and Italian, for example), I just don't care for unique names/spellings.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.