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Telling friends

EmJacks0nEmJacks0n member
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I need some help figuring out the proper way to tell a friend that we are pregnant. She has been trying since last August to get pregnant. I feel sick to my stomach to have to tell her. Let alone I'm really afraid she's going to ask me how long we tried for, as it happened way faster than we anticipated, and I'm terrible at lying i.e. sounding convincing. My sister told me to say 'a while' if she asks. Anyone had to go through this?
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Re: Telling friends

  • chemily8chemily8 member
    I have been the one on the receiving end. After multiple miscarriages too. Just be honest. Don't rub it in her face or anything but why would you lie? You can't help what has happened to her. She will have a hard time no matter how you break the news but that is for her to deal with. 
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  • 74dragonfly74dragonfly member
    I dealt with infertility for two years. My advice is tell her over email. That way she can process it alone and doesn't have to smile to your face.




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  • zou bisouzou bisou member

    Before I always thought emailing the news was a slamdunk for this kind of situation.  But enough people have said here that that form of communication felt distant at best and coddling at worst.  So I'd say, ask her how she feels about pregnancy news in general and if there's any way she prefers to hear it.  I'm sure though that if you explain that her feelings are on your thoughts, she'll respond as best she can.  She might even be genuinely thrilled.

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