Hey guys,
I feel as though this may be the once place I can express how I really feel about my struggle TTC. We had friends over today and while mentioning how sick of hearing "just relax it will happen when you least expect it", "it will happen for you, just give it time,",......, I found out I offended a good friend of mine (she's 6 months preggers, took her only 2 months to conceive). I didn't mean to hurt or say anything offensive but this is a seriously hard time in my life. This is sadly starting to take its toll on my marriage (we've been married only a year) and I have gone off my depression medication on advice of my ob and therapist (because if i get pregnant its not good for a baby). Someone at work mentioned how I have become jaded over this and after thinking about it I realized I am because of how frustrated and sad it is. I've read the books that say you need to have fun, relax, and not stress. I've tried not to dwell on it all but many people close to me are pregnant. They don't realize our friendships won't be the same once they have children because I will be the only one childless. So tired of off tending people but struggling to deal. Thanks all for letting me vent.
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Trying since Jan 2011. Unexplained IF.
2 IUIs = BFN.
1 IVF (Dec 2013) = BFN.
FET, 2 frosties (June 13, 2014)
14dp5dt-June 27 -BFP, beta 2061. 2nd beta >5000, 3rd beta >5000, 2 sacs 06/30.
Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
I feel that way all the time, and I wish I could come through the internet and give you a big hug.
One of the hardest things for me is the way IF has changed my friendships. For years, I was always going out on weekends, going to bachelorette parties, birthdays, vacations, and get togethers with friends. Now, they are getting together with their kids. They have play dates and I'm not invited. I'm not used to being so left out.
I think that it is almost impossible to "just relax and stop trying". That expression makes me want to scream. I work in an ER, and I never tell my patients who are having heart attacks to "just relax, I'm going to stop trying to save you". I never tell my students "Just give up on school, and then you will graduate when you least expect it!".
I'm sorry to hear that your marriage is being affected. My first marriage ended because my ex did not want to be tested. I hope that you get some good news and feel better soon!
I wish those people who say "dont stress, just relax" would have to have to temp their BBT every day for months on end, or have bloodwork and ultrasounds every couple days or have to give themselves injections or use progesterone suppositories multiple times/day. Umm, that is a CONSTANT DAILY reminder that IF blows, how am I supposed to "relax" through all that?
I'm totally get ya OP. And I wish your friend "got it" too.
Dx: Unexplained Infertility, probable endometriosis
Feb-April 2013: Femara + TI: BFN
May - September 2013: Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI#1-4 = BFN
IVF # 1 November 2013: transferred 1 perfect blast = BFN
IVF # 2 April 2014: Endo scrape, transferred 2 blasts = BFP!! (first ever!), CP
FET #1 June 2014: transferred 2 blasts = BFFN
New Dx: Repeat Implantation Failure
IVF # 3 November 2014 = BFP!! Beta #1 9dp5t 272 Beta # 2 11dp5dt 626
It's Twins!
*everyone welcome*
There are days when I feel sorry for my self for my DH. Like I'm letting us both down.
But then I'm reminded of all the thousands of women every day who have difficulty TTC and eventually fall pregnant and I try and stay positive.
TTC since March 2012 (2nd attempt), 3/26/13 Dx: Unexplained Infertility; 4/8/13 HSG, tubes open; DH SA good
4/2013 1st cycle of Clomid (50mg)=BFN
5/2013 2nd cycle of Clomid (50mg)=BFN
6/2013 3rd cycle of Clomid + TI(100mg)=BFFN
7/2013 1st cycle of Femara, IUI #1 cancelled, No sperm mobility (huge surprise)