Tubal Ligation Scary Stories(this may be just a vent, lol)

Ebony_miles06 · May 2013

I am a mother of three. On 5/10, I had my third child and a tubal ligation. I like to call myself the "Google Queen" so to speak and I trust thebump.com because it has real women with real stories about their pregnancy and parenting experiences. I had to have three c-sections and it was in my doctor's best interest to have my tubes tied because I have chronic high blood pressure where I was at risk for preclampsia for the entire pregnancy and, with my last pregnancy, I had placenta previa where the placenta covered the entire birth canal. Then, to top it all off, I had a fibroid tumor. I was not against the tubal ligation at all because I had to have a c section anyway so I thought they might as well do it while they're in there. I was definitely not against it because i feel three kids is enough. While on maternity leave, I have nothing to do but feed the kids and read about these tubes that I just had tied and everyone's sad and happy stories. My doctor informed me that it's a 1 in a million chance of a woman becoming pregnant after having the tubal ligation, but just today, I feel I have read over a million stories about different women becoming pregnant after this surgery, from after 20 years of having the surgery to a week after having the surgery. I am terrified. I am happy with my three children and do not look forward to having anymore. To add, DH has three of his own, so we have enough. I feel I need to go back to work soon before I lose my mind in google.

amberayra · May 2013

I will be having my RCS in Nov and will have my tubes tied as well. I have heard the small percentage of pregnancy afterwards. It does worry me a little. Have you thought of having your DH get a vasectomy along with your tubal?

vindaloo · May 2013

Um, it wasn't in your doctor's best interest to tie your tubes, it was in your best interest to have them tied. Your doc may have advised you to have it done, considering your risk factors. You make it sound like the doctor made the decision for you. That is just silly.

Ebony_miles06 · May 2013

I did not mean to have it sound as if my doctor made the decision for me, You are correct that he advised it but I was for sure that I did not want to risk anything happening to me or another baby coming into the world. I do feel three (six including my step children) is enough for me.

Ebony_miles06 · May 2013

We were actually going to look into a vasectomy. He's not too sold on it but he's thinking about it.

MrsNyberg09 · May 2013

I'm doing this in August dh and I are good with 2 kids and I have high blood pressure. I ask dh about him doing the v but he is not too sure about it.

sonshine0609 · May 2013

I didn't even have to go on to the internet to hear a bunch of stories like this. Literally every one of the women I know who have had a tubal have had subsequent pregnancies. What ever the actual statistics are I personally know too many people who have had them not work to trust them. Our doctor recommended doing one with this c/s as at this point all of my kids were conceived on failed birth control including the most recent on Mirena. We're still discussing options at this point.

BabyVmakes5 · May 2013

I read that it was 1 in 1000 that can still get pregnant with tubals. I plan on having one done during my next c-section. Because I am done (my doctor actually talked me out of it last time, and told me an IUD was just as effective. Except it's not, and since 1 in 100 fall out, and 1 in 1000 go through the uterus and in to the abdomen..I am now pregnant with no idea which one of the 1 I fall in to).

But even if I get a tubal done, I will probably still use a back up birth control. Because I am that done. Like I have accepted this (very very very surprise) pregnancy, and I'm getting excited...but I do not think I could handle ANOTHER baby after this one.

amberayra · May 2013

I think DH will still get a vasectomy. We were planning on it, but our insurance covers a tubal 100%.

tracy41 · May 2013

Did your doctor really tell you that it was a one in a million chance? Because that's funny! My doctor told me it was rare to get pregnant using Nuvaring and I have a 3 month old sleeping next to me. And I was using secondary BC as well! It happens is what she told me afterwards! It happens!!

Tubal ligation is only considered minutely more effective than other forms of BC however I think I remember reading that your chances of getting pregnant go down after the first year. But the number still isn't zero. But why the paranoia? I mean if it's imperative you not get pregnant have your husband get sterilized as well.

mrs.jenRN · May 2013

My mom had a tubal and my dad had a vasectomy to ensure there would be no more babies.

meg1974 · May 2013

There is a chance you will get pregnant with any kind of birth control method. You just have to weigh the pros vs. the cons. For me, I thought a tubal would be better than being on hormonal bc.

If you're really worried about getting pg, I would suggest having your DH get a vasectomy. We are considering this as well, although we have read a few things about it increasing cancer risk so we're doing more research before deciding.

You could also use an additional form of bc.

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