I forgot how hard sleep training is...

melly918 · May 2013

Being a STM, I am not so on top of things with DD than I was with DS. I nursed her to sleep and put her in the crib asleep every night. It was perfect. But I know she has to learn to fall asleep on her own. I put her down awake at 9 and let DH do the periodical check-ins. She screamed for an hour. I'm watching her on the monitor until I can no longer tolerate it. I went up to soothe her by rubbing her chest then holding her arms gently to simulate the swaddle feel. She was hiccuping but eventually calmed down and has been asleep for the past 15 minutes. They said the first night is the hardest. Let's hope. I gave my 3-year-old a big hug and thanked him for being a great sleeper. And yes, we used the same method... He was about a month younger than DD when we started with him.

melly918 · May 2013

theresat858:
I guess I don't understand why you're doing it if you think it's hard or not something you want to do... Babies can be put down asleep and toddlers or older children do learn how to sleep on their own...
My LO has never been left alone in her crib screaming for more than 10 minutes...she soothes herself back to sleep in the middle of the night no problem now that she is older...

i am following the advice of Baby 411. I don't want DD to continue to use my boob to help her fall asleep every night. She needs to learn to self-soothe and fall asleep on her own or the habit will get harder to break when she gets older. My ILs had to hold their children's hand until they fell asleep, even if it took a long time. They were much older, like three and six. That's not what we want. The method worked with DS and he goes to bed without a fuss and will stay in bed until fe falls asleep. I'm just saying I forgot how hard it is but the book did say the first night is the worst and consistency is the key. I do realize that this is not for everyone.

She did stay asleep until her one MOTN feed.

Muffinhb · May 2013

Good luck! For us the first 3 nights were the hardest. She slept in our room until she as 4 months old then moved out.

orangegoggles · May 2013

theresat858:
I guess I don't understand why you're doing it if you think it's hard or not something you want to do...nbsp; Babies can be put down asleep and toddlers or older children do learn how to sleep on their own...My LO has never been left alone in her crib screaming for more than 10 minutes...she soothes herself back to sleep in the middle of the night no problem now that she is older...nbsp;

Sometimes as parents you have to do what is right for your specific child, even if you don't want to.

My son does not have any self soothing abilities and for the past two months is waking after his first sleep cycle all through the night most nights. So every 45 minutes to an hour we are up trying to soothe him back to sleep. He does not want to eat and is not sick or teething that we know of. It is not healthy for him and the rest of my family.

I will for sure be sleep training once I have finished reading my book and DS is closer to 6 months. It's what is right for my family...and probably why the pp is doing it.

Good luck OP!

julesjb · May 2013

I think your doing the right thing and in the right way. Hang in there!!

ST turned my horrible sleeper into a dream sleeper. I am thankful we made the choice and it was something originally I thought I wouldn't go for.

Parenting is hard, in all aspects. It's also hard to only be able to soothe your child by whipping out a boob so we all make choices which are best for our families

melly918 · May 2013

pangnl79:
theresat858:
I guess I don't understand why you're doing it if you think it's hard or not something you want to do...nbsp; Babies can be put down asleep and toddlers or older children do learn how to sleep on their own...My LO has never been left alone in her crib screaming for more than 10 minutes...she soothes herself back to sleep in the middle of the night no problem now that she is older...nbsp;
Sometimes as parents you have to do what is right for your specific child, even if you don't want to. My son does not have any self soothing abilities and for the past two months is waking after his first sleep cycle all through the night most nights. So every 45 minutes to an hour we are up trying to soothe him back to sleep. He does not want to eat and is not sick or teething that we know of. It is not healthy for him and the rest of my family. I will for sure be sleep training once I have finished reading my book and DS is closer to 6 months. It's what is right for my family...and probably why the pp is doing it. Good luck OP!

Thanks and good luck to you! I hope your little guy starts developing some good sleep habits soon!

adoxyinherear · May 2013

*hugs* I can't even deal with sleep training. I'm trying the No Cry stuff right now because two nights of the screaming was all I could handle.

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