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Ginlyn0
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FFFC
Ginlyn0
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I wish I could be a SAHM and/or go to school during the day and not work. However, I'm a slave to the job especially since I'm the primary breadwinner. When I first met DH, he made more than I did, but brought home slightly less due to CS. Now, he barely brings home enough to cover DS's daycare after CS and makes way less than me gross wise. We were supposed to be transitioning so that I could eventually work PT and go to school during the day because what I want to do requires daytime classes. Now I'm trying to figure out what I'm going to change my major to because that is not going to work out. I have 64 hours and have completed all my basics. I don't want a generic BA or BS in business or some crap which is what is mainly offered at my university and the ones around me online. And I've gotten 3 raises in the last year which makes this so much harder!! I'm stuck at this god-forsaken job forever! 13 years has been long enough.
DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)
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Re: FFFC
Pinky's father and stepfather are coming to her recital in two weeks. It's the first time they have come to anything of any importance.
I wish they'd stay the fuuk home.
They're only doing it to be jerkfaces anyway. But I promise, I'll be nice. I swear.
Click me, click me!
This has been one of the hardest weeks since DH and I got together. Between he and I, things are fine. There was a hearing addressing ExW's Change of Venue motion from last December (if I said November previously, I was mistaken). She has not given service of the motion to either DH or our attorney, but it's being entertained. Apparently, if she has filed anything in GA (the case is currently in FL) before the date of the hearing, it will be moved. We can't afford another retainer. And I can't go through the harassment from ExW again. We're in limbo while the court is giving her time to supply documentation of filing in GA.
And I'm about to lose it. DH isn't sleeping, is barely eating and is entirely exhausted. He's been working 60+ hour weeks and trying not to lose his mind entirely about all of this. And now he's not telling me everything that's going on. I know he's trying to protect me, but I'm trying to help him and I don't know how if I don't have all the information of what is going on. I lost it on Wednesday and told DH I would ask his parents to borrow the money for another retainer if the case gets moved. Or just give up. I don't want to give up, but I don't know what to do any more. Apparently ExW can do what ever the he!! she wants, ignore all rules of proper procedure, break federal law, and still win.
Me to! My job provides our health care and all the benefits.
When DH and I were building this house and getting married he told me 'don't worry about money' and here I am STUCK in this job.
This is such a first world and self-centered issue.......
DH was FINALLY hired as a full=time employee for his job. He had been in the position for 4 months now, as a temp.
Its an amazing job for him. It is a non-federal government job. The salary is really good for our area's COL. So with adding on his retirement and disability, I no longer have to be a SAHM because of finances (ie I can get a job now - though I would still be working to pay for daycare).
The job itself is currently satisfying for DH and is meant to grow BECAUSE of him being in the position, which will allow him to move into an even better job in the future.
(i.e. they dumbed down the job due to budget constraints, therefore taking the responsibilities away, but because he is not in it for the money his boss is going to expand the responsibilities and give him the title change, but not the money)
My FFFC #1 - I am crazy jealous. I left my career, where I was actually considered an expert in (I testified before congress), to marry DH. I did it with my eyes wide open, but I honestly thought I would be able to find something else to do as satisfying.
My FFFC #2 - We will have to be here for at least 3 more years. I hate it here. I cannot find a job here, there really isn't much to do here, there are no mountains here, there is too much beach and sand here.
BOOOOO
FFFC 1.... I have eaten almost two whole trays of Wholly Guacamole in the past 24 hours. I feel like such a fat azz. I seriously need to start working out and eating better. I'm not a big girl but I feel sloppy and gross right now.
FFFC 2..... Even though I miss my kids, and I would gladly have them every day, I REALLY enjoy sleeping in late two days a week. I really enjoy being able to meet up with friends once in a while for drinks without getting a sitter. It's so nice to have time to unwind. I actually laugh to myself when XH complains he never gets to sleep in because he is the one who pushed for this arrangement.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels that way about their job. I mean, I like my job, it pays my bills and it's been good to me but I'm over working on the insurance side of healthcare, I want to work in the medical field. I, too, am responsible for carrying health insurance for everyone except DD (her SM's plan is way better than mine). I also have excellent dental/vision, accident insurance and hospitalization insurance. While my medical plan sort of sucks (because it's a group policy through another company and is high deductible) all our other supplemental insurance policies that are actually through my company are at no cost to me for my entire family are great.
I want to be a nurse. I was going to get my BSN but I only have 2 pre-nursing pre-reqs and microbiology to take before I can apply for the nursing program at my school or techincally if I jumped back to a community college I could just take micro and apply and then after getting my RN I could do a RN-BSN online at my current school. I can take those and hope things will change before I'm done, but I doubt they will. No nursing schools around here have weekend/evening programs except one, which requires a bachelors before you can be accepted and at that rate, I could just apply to physician assistant school. No one IRL besides my immediate family knows what I am going to school for, I'm sure my boss thinks I'm going to get a business degree or something. My hope was to get my BSN, then continue while working as a nurse to go on to either be a nurse midwife or nurse anesthesiologist (both areas interest me).
Now I'm trying to find at least something in the medical field where I can make close to what I'm making now at least so that maybe I can work an off schedule or weekend schedule and finish my original plan, maybe. But in my area, I make a good chunk of change for someone without a degree because I've worked there so long and have worked my way up. But I also don't want to waste my time taking more nursing related courses if I am not going to be able to do that. So frustrating.
DH feels really bad, I know it's not his fault just frustrating. Our plan was for me to get this done, and get to where I was only working three 12 hour shifts to be with the kids more and then allow him to go back to school as well once I was done.