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SilentSymphony
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Stay or Go?
SilentSymphony
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So about to have DD#2 in about two weeks. DD#1 just turned 20 months. SO moved to the southern part of the state (we live in the north) to get a good paying job (we've both been laid off). Due to us both not working we have a place to live until July, then we need to get a new place (thank god he got a job), the distance has put a train on our relationship and have been talking about options. I found a organization that might pay for an apartment for two years but i wont know until about july (perfect timing right) but if I take that then he wants to stay down there until september so he can save and send money. I really want him with us especially when the baby comes. But he just told me how cheap it is for a house down there and that he wants us to move down there so he can keep his job a little longer for more money. It's kinda in the country and we could get a car but I dont know how to drive and he knows how to but has no license. I'm just wondering should i stay up here and get the apartment or go down there and get the house and be a family....
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Re: Stay or Go?
We are not married (but plan on it eventually and plan to spend the rest of our lives together), we have been together for about 3 years and he's the father of both of my kids. If I go down there I will be staying home with the kids until i get acquainted with the town (yes its small enough to be a town) and find some sort of childcare that I am comfortable with. his best friend lives down there (thats how he got the job) and has a 3 year old and family as a support system (even though he's not too fond of me) and I have family about an hour north. Once I have childcare I plan on looking for a job and I'm hoping to get my license before I move down there if I do go (Im afraid of driving)
Where I live a studio apartment alone is anywhere from 500 to 800 a month and i dont even get that much on my cash assistance. Where he lives a one bedroom house is 350 a month.
She posted on the single parents board about whether she should have her children's father or boyfriend in the delivery room with her... I'd c&p, but don't want to get banned ;-)
OK, my advice is get your crap together and don't factor in your maybe, sorta, could be husband who isn't living with you right now with your plans.
Agree if this is not MUD....
Stay where you are, apply for housing assistance. Get a drivers license, get an education and use birth control. 2u2 is hard enough let alone when you do not have the money to afford them.
I worked with low clients and saw their newborn get taken by the state because they did not have a stable home (electric/water was usually iffy) or car to take the baby home in.
I think you need to find a life for you and your girls without your on again off again SO.