Allison

Minipenguin · May 2013

Everyone's been attacking you lately. I'm not going to do that.

Being a mom is hard. Being a working mom can be really hard. Being a working mom of twins is over-whelming, exhausting, and stressful. I know you do a lot of work to care for your kids. I know you get up with them at night and then still drag yourself out of bed to work. I know you love them and support them emotionally, academically, and financially. It is not easy. They will benefit enormously from watching their mother work hard to support her family and still find time to care for them.

The benefit from this is so enormous that there are very few things that could possibly undermine it. One of them is sexual abuse. Please don't take this as an attack. It's not. But if you have ever thought for one flicker of a moment that your husband might get drunk, feel desperate, have a lapse (alcoholics have these all the time), or for any reason at all even consider doing something to them that you wouldn't do yourself, please leave. It will be incredibly hard, but there are places you can go and people who will help you. This kind of strength and bravery will do wonders for your children. They will always respect you for saving them from a fate that might have been.

It's easy for strangers to judge you. Leaving is so, so, so much easier said than done. But you are strong enough to do it. If you need help finding somewhere to go, you can PM me and I will help you find where you can go and find childcare while you work. There are organizations that help.

lifesthebeach · May 2013

I linked over from another board, and don't know enough of the background or people involved to go on the attack. I have to say though, the proof seems to be pretty substantial. There is a girl who posts on Parenting sometimes who was pregnant when her husband was arrested. She thought he was the man of her dreams and that they had a great life. She had absolutely no idea he was trolling for young girls online. There is also another girl whose husband was arrested for molesting their own daughter (who was 3 I think) and then trading pictures and video with other sickos on the internet. She never had any suspicions until the day he was arrested. Sometimes things can seem ok, even when they aren't.

These are public blogs, and they have shared them several times, so I think it's ok to post the links. Especially if it might help another mom and her babies.

https://myattemptbga.blogspot.com/2010/06/new-life-now-blog-of-emotional-survival.html

https://www.lifeturnedupsidedown.com/the-story/

SrslyQuitBanningMe · May 2013

I sincerely appreciate you both being concerned about my well being and the well being of my children. However, I assure you that I am under no duress or pressure to stay in my marriage. My husband is a wonderful father to my children. He is actually better with them than I am. I work because that was my choice. I don't get up in the middle of the night with them. He does because that is his job as a SAHD. I'm not sure about the alcoholic comment. My husband doesn't drink. He doesn't do drugs. He is not abusive in any way. He has patience and understanding for days and days. I'm sorry you all feel that I am in some way ignorant and neglectful, but nothing could be further from the truth.

Again, I appreciate your concern, but I am absolutely happy and satisfied right where I am. My children are well cared for, well adjusted, happy, loved, beautiful and safe.

Finally, I have seen both of the blogs linked by the PP. Believe it or not I do a lot of research in the realm of SO registry and SO law. Neither of those situations have any bearing on my personal situation. I know I will never be able to convince you, but you are wrong about both of us. That is all I can say.

I really hope this doesn't turn into another bashfest. The only reason I responded really was to thank you for being kind. That is exceedingly rare around here.

robinsokj · May 2013

I'm LoLing that he gets up with him b/c its his job as a sahd. Way to throw the working/sah war in there. Thumbs up!

Andrewsgal · May 2013

Pedophiles are great with kids. They offen spend years grooming their kids. It is not uncommon for people to be shocked when they find out someone is a pedophile. He was so good with the kids, the kids loved him, my family loved him. These are very common sentiments. Most people are shocked, you won't be. Your husband has proven he is a sexual offender. I know you believe him, and I am sure his family does too. The point is he is lying to you. The court records don't back up his story. Court records can't be falsified from a court website.

The lies alone would be a deal breaker for most. They won't be for you. And yes they are lies. You seriously need to sitdown and google your own husband. What happened in your past that you think this is the best you can get? I know you are mentally ill and I really hope you are seeing a therapist. It is your job as a mother to protect your kids instead you are daily handing them over to a SO.

Andrewsgal · May 2013

robinsokj:
I'm LoLing that he gets up with him b/c its his job as a sahd. Way to throw the working/sah war in there. Thumbs up!

I thought it was funny because this whole thing started because she was such a bitchy to a girl about CiO. She stated she would never use it and she has twins. Um of course you don't need it you don't get up.

notkateanymore · May 2013

Can we just ignore her and not summon her here anymore? Seriously, she's not going to listen...ever probably.

Minipenguin · May 2013

Oh, well. I thought the "catch more flies with honey than vinegar" thing might work. I sincerely hope someone is looking into this because those kids depend on the system protecting them.

MrsGoodkat · May 2013

robinsokj:
I'm LoLing that he gets up with him b/c its his job as a sahd. Way to throw the working/sah war in there. Thumbs up!

No wonder why she can be so against CIO...she's not the one having to deal with getting up several times a night.

And yeah, just +1 on what everyone else said.

PrimRoseMama · May 2013

krptcmschfmkr128:
Minipenguin:
Oh, well. I thought the "catch more flies with honey than vinegar" thing might work. I sincerely hope someone is looking into this because those kids depend on the system protecting them.
I hope so, too, for their sake. Hell, with him being expected to get up with them in the middle of the night, he doesn't even have to sneak like most SO's do, and the kids are going to grow up thinking that it's "normal."
There is a member on parenting from GA who is willing to make the appropriate phone calls, she just needs more info. Page Hilarity Ensued over there if you can help her out. 

This is so so sad and creepy!!! My heart breaks for these poor kids that are probably being raped, molested and having their images sold online while their mother looks the other way. It makes me sick.

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Spookster · May 2013

Stay in denial while your children remain in danger. you are a fuccking peach.

LastTrySeriously · May 2013

krptcmschfmkr128:
Minipenguin:
Oh, well. I thought the "catch more flies with honey than vinegar" thing might work. I sincerely hope someone is looking into this because those kids depend on the system protecting them.
I hope so, too, for their sake. Hell, with him being expected to get up with them in the middle of the night, he doesn't even have to sneak like most SO's do, and the kids are going to grow up thinking that it's "normal."
There is a member on parenting from GA who is willing to make the appropriate phone calls, she just needs more info. Page Hilarity Ensued over there if you can help her out.

Thank you so much for providing me with the SN of the person who wants to call and report me to CPS. I will be happy to contact her and give her the name and number of the caseworker who was here the last time one of you crazy snnnatches called CPS on my family. I'm sure that you'll all be sad to know that the investigation resulted in absolutely nothing. They found our home to be in perfect order, our support system more than adequate, and my husband charges (the real ones, not the actual ones that Google (which we know to be such a credible source for information ::eyeroll::) to have absolutely no bearing on the safety and well being of our children. So yeah...if you want to call CPS go ahead. We have been there and done that back in September and since nothing about our situation has changed in the slightest I'm more than certain that the person calling to make the report will be given the standard "sure we'll look into it" and the report will promptly go right in the circular file. Believe it or not, I am NOT an idiot and I wouldn't be putting all of this out here if I had something to hide, be ashamed of or worry about.

The law and the social services department have told us already that we are wonderful parents and have nothing to worry about. This was all verified by our own parents, friends, family and babies doctors (who were contacted before we had any idea an investigation was underway).

Your accusations are based off of a variety of circumstances you don't understand and you don't even come close to knowing the whole story, so please, for the love of God, find someone else to pick on and someone else's kids to feel sorry for.

P.S. Of COURSE I Googled my own husband. I did that before we even dated. I also went to the court house to pull all of his court records and I also requested background checks that encompassed all of the US. I also spoke with his probation officer and all she could tell me was that we needed to see a lawyer as soon as we immediately could to get his record expunged and have him removed from the registry. Unfortunately we have to wait 9 more years for that.

Anyway, I've rambled on enough and I'm sure most of you won't believe what I've said anyway. I guess the only reason I keep trying is because if I can just convince one of you that I'm not endangering my kids I'll sleep a little better at night. I can see, though, that will not happen, so I officially fvvvvcking give up.

I hope you all have a nice life and find some way to be less judgmental in the future.

Samiantha101 · May 2013

So you knew your husband was a pedo before you started to date him?

You're a sick person, and I'm using the term person loosely. You may be just as much of a monster as your disgusting husband.

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EBelle80 · May 2013

So...I was one of the many to be "involved" in the Allison drama way back from the June 12 board. The fallout from her craziness and Alicia's particular brand of crazy are the whole reason myself and many others do not participate on the Bump anymore. I'm sorry yet another board got drawn into it. All it serves is a great reminder to 1) never trust anyone on the Internet, 2) never give money and 3) don't let your children's images be exposed to questionable people. Nothing you say or do will help her or change her mind in any way. A PP hit the nail on the head. She is just as much of a monster as her husband. She's not a victim, so don't mistake her for one. At this point she is a willing accomplice to whatever he may perpetrate in the future. After all this time, she is still here with new SNs. Why is that? No one likes interacting with her anymore. There is something darker mentally at work here. You are not communicating with a sane person. Anyway, this is a really long way to say..."You're wasting your breath and energy".

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