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Reiterate that I must not TTC yet... :

MommytoAngelMommytoAngel
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It's been three weeks but I have no fail signs of ovulation... I know I shouldn't even be thinking about it right now but I miss him so much and want to be pregnant... AND if we did it would be due around valentines day and my bday feb 11th plus we would find out around father's day... I know it's much more risky now to try after a late loss but it's soooo hard... I even tried to tell myself to just do it once but it only took twice for John :/

Please tell me I shouldn't be thinking about it til at least another month has gone by...
DD 9-10-10 DS 5-3-13 our sweet angel boy
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Re: Reiterate that I must not TTC yet... :

  • OSUWifey09OSUWifey09 member

    I know that it's hard to not want to be pregnant again right away. I remember feeling the same way - I wanted another baby NOW. We were forced to wait three months because of a shot I had gotten before leaving the hospital, then we tried at Christmas with no luck. After that, we took a break, I went into counseling and came to grips with what had happened, and that was when I finally felt like I was having another child instead of replacing the one I had lost.

    I know everyone is different, but for me, waiting was the best thing ever. It gave me time to grieve, to get through major milestones without another pregnancy, to have that time for me. I wanted so badly to have another baby, but I really did need that time to mentally and physically heal. I know it's hard to wait, but I would give it more time.

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  • XathXath member

    Waiting is very very hard I know.  We're almost 5 months out, and it'll be at least 1 more before my doctor will ok us trying again.  When I really desperately want to be pregnant and try, I think of it this way: 

    What you've been through is the worst thing you have ever experienced.  You DO NOT want to go through that again, especially if you would know that it may have been because you TTC before your body was ready.  Losing a baby is difficult enough without having something concrete to blame yourself for.  Give yourself and your future child every possibility for success.   Give your body the time it needs to heal, so you can be as strong as possible.

    Hugs to you.  

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  • NoetholaNoethola member

    It was so hard to be ok with waiting. We want our babies. We want to be pregnant again and know our babies are safe, living and just where they should be. Wait until your postpartum appointment to talk with your doctor. They may have some medical concerns to address.

    Another loss mom told me to be purposeful about the time between delivery and when you are pregnant with your next baby. Take time to "be" with the baby you lost. I know for her, it meant taking an hour a day to have Priya time with her daughter. For me, its writing letters to my daughter in a journal. Take the time to heal.


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  • MommytoAngelMommytoAngel
    Thank you all for reiterating that I need to wait for all of the reasons. I needed to be told again. I know we need to and we will... The dates are what makes it so hard... The dr said at my follow appt last week to wait 2 cycles... And I'm supposed to see MFM next week... We will wait but it is very hard. Luckily my other half has much for self control than me right now...
    DD 9-10-10 DS 5-3-13 our sweet angel boy
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  • alpinemommaalpinemomma
    I totally agree with taking time however it ended up taking us 2 long years to conceive this time after losing our son whereas before it was immediate
    Doc says it was due to our grief and stress so just TTC and leave the rest up to God
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