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Lavender PLavender P member
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SS told me today that they "donated" one of their cats to the SPCA. This is the 4th pet that they have had in 2 years that they have given to the SPCA. I'm not even an animal lover, but I don't know why BM keeps getting pets and then giving them away. They still have another dog and cat in the house, but I'm sure it won't be long before they bring in the next one. I know logically that what they do in their house isn't really our business it frustrates me that SS thinks it is okay to just get animals as puppies or kittens and then give them away when you don't want it anymore. It doesn't teach much responsibility....vent over.
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  • stephcarterstephcarter member
    That's terrible!!

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    Being an animal lover when you adopt or somehow cone to own an animal that animal stays with you for its entire life unless there are extinuating circumstances. Its upsetting to walk through the shelter and see dogs and cats in little cages and know that in 35 days if that dog or cat isnt adopted itll be put down. Wish people would think before they get an animal...
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    Do you really want to counter this? 

    Contact your local animal shelters (not just the ASPCA) and look at volunteering with your SS.  He will get a first hand and real look at what happens in a shelter.  

    And the shelter will get some very needed help.  

    Once a month DD and I bring stuffed animals (none with the beads inside) we have collected from our friends to our local dog shelter - which is a kill shelter.  We will then either help clean (with her, we basically do the laundry and spray down the kennels) or even walk some dogs.  

    And she knows that if the puppies/dogs are not adopted, they will be put to down and go to heaven.  Now, I make it out nicer and tell her that once they die and become puppy angels, they go to heaven to become the pets of human angels, but she does know that they are dead.


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  • PamelacakePamelacake member

    I had a friend that would do this. She would get a puppy and when she realized s]they were so much work she would take them into the country and dump them off! I would beg her to at least take them to the shelter. She would put some food out on the ground and make them get out and drive off. it was sickening to me. I am a dog lover and would have taken them myself but couldn't at the time.

    and I don't think that's right to show the child that.. and make them think that it's ok.

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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    Thanks all. I know it is a minor 'issue' compared to what most people are dealing with, but it is frustrating to see. Illumine, I appreciate the suggestion. I hadn't thought of that and wasnt sure if SS should know that the animals are killed if they aren't adopted. My DH told me not to tell him because he knows that BM will flip out about it. I'll look into it and ask SS next time we have him to go volunteer with me. It is something nice we can do together.
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  • hindsight's_a_biotchhindsight's_a_biotch member
    This would annoy the piss out of me. Pets aren't video games.


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    imagehindsight's_a_biotch:
    This would annoy the piss out of me. Pets aren't video games.

    It does, but it is typical of SS's mom. She doesn't take responsibility for anything, and pets are no different. They 'donated' the last puppy because he wasn't trained. Um, do you think was supposed to train it? The puppy training fairy???
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    I totally agree with IIumine. Very good advice!!

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    imageIlumine:

    And she knows that if the puppies/dogs are not adopted, they will be put to down and go to heaven.  Now, I make it out nicer and tell her that once they die and become puppy angels, they go to heaven to become the pets of human angels, but she does know that they are dead.

    This made me cry.  Illumine, that is such a sweet way to explain it to a small child.  I'll be stealing this for sure.

    OP: I feel your frustration.  BM does the same thing with K.  They just got another  new kitten.  Seriously, this is the 3rd cat they've gotten in 2 years.  The other 2 cats "went away". It drives me nuts but unfortunately we can't control what happens over there. All we can do is show her that pets are family members are require just as much attention and love as she and her siblings do. 

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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    imageIlumine:
    Do you really want to counter this?nbsp;Contact your local animal shelters not just the ASPCA and look at volunteering with your SS. nbsp;He will get a first hand and real look at what happens in a shelter. nbsp;And the shelter will get some very needed help. nbsp;Once a month DD and I bring stuffed animals none with the beads inside we have collected from our friends to our local dog shelter which is a kill shelter. nbsp;We will then either help clean with her, we basically do the laundry and spray down the kennels or even walk some dogs. nbsp;And she knows that if the puppies/dogs are not adopted, they will be put to down and go to heaven. nbsp;Now, I make it out nicer and tell her that once they die and become puppy angels, they go to heaven to become the pets of human angels, but she does know that they are dead.


    Omg, I want to print this out and post it up at our clinic. And forward it to the local Humane Society president. There are people who care!

    This is a fantastic idea, Illumine, and I WISH we had people like that around here.

    I, too, have had to work hard to educate not only SD but even DH when it comes to this. And being a vet tech, I don't take pet responsibility lightly. It amazes me how people in this rural area truly believe that their pet's behavior is not their responsibility, let alone a direct result of their actions or lack their of, and thay the approriate way to solve a problem with an animal is to shoot it or drop it off on a back road.
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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    They don't allow children to volunteer where we are.  I wish they did, because the girls have had three dogs with exh.  He has even given them framed pics of the dogs so "they don't miss them when they have to go with mean mommy".  Then the dogs "run away" or "had to be given to a friend".  I removed the frame with the last dog from DD's room because she was waking up crying for the dog at night.

    Needless to say, I also find this behavior infuriating.

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