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Hi All!  I am new to this particular board and am looking for advice.  I am currently working full-time, as does my husband.  I am pregnant with twins (yay!) and we are due in December.  I like my job, honestly.  However, here's the "problem" that I need advice for.

If I were to go back to work after having the babies, I'd be bringing home a whopping $100 per week after paying for daycare for 2 infants.  (yes I know, my hubby should share in the expense, that's not the point I'm trying to make)  I am at a point where if I work full-time and am bringing home a substantial wage after paying for daycare then it would be ok.  But for me to work 40 hours and drop my kids off for someone else to "raise", just so I can bring home $100, well it's not worth it to me.  My hubby is on board with my thoughts, so there are no issues or disagreements between us.  My mom was a SAHM, and I remember so many good things about it, and am grateful for her being there for me. 

Here's my question.  Do you choose to work outside of the house for a few hours in the evenings or on the weekends when your hubby is home to watch the kids, or do you just stay at home with them?  (I don't mean for that to sound condescending, being a stay-at-home-mom is in itself a full-time job)  I'm just trying to think of a way to bring in a little extra money while not shipping my kids off to someone else. 

Does what I am saying make sense?  I'm struggling to decide what to do.  I have plenty of time, but keep going back and forth.  Needing some advice.

 

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  • nicoleh55nicoleh55 member
    I understand where you are coming from. If I decided to go back I'd bring home the same amount if I was lucky.
    I'm a hair dresser so I will continue doing friends and family from my home.
    My suggestion would be waitressing or bar trending
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    It's a really bad time to be a newbie here...hope you get some answers.
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  • mylittlesunshinemylittlesunshine member
    Lets get something straight. Having a child in daycare doesn't equal someone is raising them.

    I don't work at all because DH is gone a lot.

    Honestly it is something you and DH have to decide.
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  • MinipenguinMinipenguin member

    I don't "work" per se. I do a lot of volunteer work on the weekends and I tutor kids in a homeschool group in French for free. DH likes time to be alone with DD and I like time to be away. lol, after all day with her, I need a break.

    ETA: ITA with PP. Putting them in preschool/daycare is not letting someone else raise them. Plus, the expense will go down as they get older, you will get raises that you can't get if you quit... it's not just about the money you make now. SAH isn't for everyone. I thought I would like it more than I do.

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  • Hollylb3Hollylb3 member
    I don't feel like I need to work outside the home. What I do is a full time job. He works so much right now, I do all the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, bill paying, 90 percent of the baby care, etc. I've got enough on my plate.

    But if you want to, or need the validation, try it out. If you don't like it, you don't have to stick with it. Though I have a feeling with twins you'll be too exhausted after all day with them to go moonlight somewhere. I know I'm exhausted with one. Good luck!
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    No, I don't do any work outside the home.  I feel like this is going to be a personal choice (barring financial necessity, of course).  Do whatever feels right.
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  • sometimesalwayschaoticsometimesalwayschaotic member
    I don't have any sort of job outside of the home.  I would hate to have to work nights/weekends and not get to spend that time with DH.  It feels like our time is so limited since our girls are rather high maintenance.
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  • jennip68jennip68 member
    I was a teacher but have decided to stay home...  I substitute on some Tuesdays and Thursdays for extra "play" money.  (I mostly stay at home unless I want to make some fast cash....  I love my time at home with our little girl.)  We use that money for seasonal stuff.  Just find out what works for your family. 

     

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  • JoDocJoDoc member

    Thanks for the responses.  I do like my job, but it isn't something that I could 'advance' further with this company, with exception to 25 cent raise per year.  Don't get me wrong, I am an office manager in a small company.  I am paid a fair amount for my work, but again, bringing home $100 a week in exchange for not being with my kids all day, I just don't know. 

    Whoever posted that "day care doesn't equal someone else raising them" is right.  I just didn't know a better way to put it.  That's also why I put "Raise" in quotes.  I guess my question to some of you is this: Is $100 a week worth it to be missing out on so much of their time? I'm just asking for opinions, what you feel. If given the choice of staying home and being with your kids (and taking care of the house, bills, etc.) or having $100 in your pocket and being away from them, what would you choose?

     

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  • mrsnorthernbellmrsnorthernbell member
    imageJoDoc:
    Thanks for the responses.nbsp; I do like my job, but it isn't something that I could 'advance' further with this company, with exception to 25 cent raise per year.nbsp; Don't get me wrong, I am an office manager in a small company.nbsp; I am paid a fair amount for my work, but again, bringing home 100 a week in exchange for not being with my kids all day, I just don't know.nbsp; Whoever posted that "day care doesn't equal someone else raising them" is right.nbsp; I just didn't know a better way to put it.nbsp; That's also why I put "Raise" in quotes.nbsp; I guess my question to some of you is this: Is 100 a week worth it to be missing out on so much of their time? I'm just asking for opinions, what you feel. If given the choice of staying home and being with your kids and taking care of the house, bills, etc. or having 100 in your pocket and being away from them, what would you choose?


    I left a great job where I made a substantial amount of money and had opportunities to move up. I decided to stay home because I wanted that time with my kids. Dh has a great career and works a lot. He supported whatever decision I wanted.
    I did go back to work after my maternity leave for 3 months. I wanted to make sure staying home was thd right decision. Do I miss working? Yes but after being home for 2 years and another baby on the way, I wouldn't choose anything different. I have experienced so much with dd and an excited to have that opportunity with my new ds on the way.
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