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Showing at 5 weeks (diastasis)

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I am 5 weeks pregnant with severe diastasis left over from my previous recent pregnancy.  The diastasis gave me a distended look that I was able to somewhat mask before getting pregnant with #2.  Sometimes I wore Spanx or just wore flowy things.  Obviously, I would not wear Spanx now.  Now that I am pregnant, I'm learning that there is a difference between the distended look versus the pregnant look. My belly has started to pop already.  I am trying to not make it obvious at work and I am spending a lot of time behind my desk.  My boss is such a busy-body as it is and I know she will be wondering "is she or isn't she?"  The other day, when she saw me eating a salad at 4 pm at my desk, she said, "Are you pregnant again?"  (At the time, I wasn't!)  I'm wondering how long I should hold out.  Part of me just wants to "come out" since then I will feel less awkward and can bust out with the cute maternity dresses, which will be more comfortable to wear.  The other part of me would like to wait until the usual time people start to tell. The reality it, I'm not sure I will be able to keep it a secret because of how I look.  Advice on how to handle?  (Also, any advice on how to respond to comments like, "wow, you're only 5 weeks... you're huge!" would help too.)
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Re: Showing at 5 weeks (diastasis)

  • christinak22christinak22 member

    I hope people don't say "you're huge!", but they inevitably will because people are just rude. I always just say "oh" or "thanks" depending on whether I'm thankful for their comment or not :)

    And about waiting or telling, I'm not a private person and would just tell. That way, people don't end up finding out on "accident" because they make an awkward joke or whatever. And you have an excuse to eat at your desk all you want :)

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Personally I'd keep it as quiet as I could at this stage.  Spanx are totally safe :)
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  • winminpin08winminpin08 member
    I had the same issue, two pregnancies close together and diastasis.  I just didn't say anything, lol.  I could tell people were sort of wondering, but you don't have to confirm to anyone.  I told family at 8 weeks just because I could tell it was so obvious I told other friends at 12 weeks because a few of them confronted me but I didn't confirm at work until 17 weeks.  It's none of their business and you don't have to tell them anything no matter how pregnant you may look.  I am self conscious now because I am not pregnant and still look like I did at about 8-10 weeks because of the distended look from the diastasis.  No one ever told me I looked huge but I usually pre-emptively said something like "yeah, i'm only 5 weeks but I am showing much earlier since it's my second" most people are fine with that.

     

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  • sooner1981sooner1981 member
    Huge fan of Spanx!  Why would you not wear them now?
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  • Mrs.RockyMMrs.RockyM member
    Can you just say that you have nothing to say, but when you're ready to say something you will. 
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