I just don't get the whole "we are saying we are team green so we can hopefully force people to buy us 'useful' presents off our registry" thing...
Apparently it is encouraged in many circles.
Major side eye.
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Re: Team Green (but not really)
I didn't think her post was awful. Seems like she's got some MIL issues!
I respect the idea of you and DH knowing so it's your own secret for a while. It does seem craptastic to hold out just so you get better gifts at your shower. We were team green and that was a surprise bonus for us. However, we were also team green for #2 and will be if we are lucky enough to conceive again!
Exactly, just because it is secondhand does not mean it is not good quality. It is my responsibility to provide for my baby, anything others are nice enough to give is greatly appreciated.
We were team green all the way with all 3. My mom found out in the delivery room by accident (before #2 was born. The OB slipped up and said someting about "he is a stubborn little guy". My picked up on that immediately (but didn't say anything to me), but DH and I were too busy trying to deliver him to catch it! lol
My SIL and Bro are not revealing to "the rest of the world" but neither of them can't wait until delivery. I'm thinking they "might" tell grandparents (and I hope me) but I'm thining not. If there are people that know and I don't I would be be like "what the fluck"...all these people know and the only auntie doesn't!!?" lol
I love second hand! We go to church sales every year to stock up for our kids, it's great! Plus if they destroy the clothes you shrug your shoulders because you paid $2 for it!
To be honest, my mom and I are hitting up every garage sale this summer in search of cheap, good, gently used clothes for this LO, whatever the sex ends up being. Same thing for toys. It's not that I'm cheap, I just don't see the sense if buying loads of brand new clothes and toys when they'll outgrow them so quickly!
I usually lurk on this board, but I had to give my $.02 on this one. This is the second time in as many weeks that I've seen this idea that Team Green people are greedy and/or Team Green = better gifts.
I think this notion that "if people know the sex of the baby, you'll get nothing but clothes" and "if you want really good loot, be on Team Green" is completely erroneous, or at least overblown.
I've been to about a gazillion baby showers in my 44 years on this planet. I have been to pink/blue AND green showers where where the MTB walked away with everything she needed to care for and dress her baby for the next year. On the other hand, I've been to pink/blue showers AND green showers where I felt like all the MTB got was clothes or all the MTB got was weird/useless stuff.
So many other variables are at play in the gifts that are given at a shower that it's just ridiculous to assume that Team Green is a guarantee of "scoring good loot" at your shower and that Pink/Blue means all you'll get is baby clothes.
Be team green, if it's your inclination, or if you have no other choice. Be pink/blue if you want to know the baby's sex ahead of time. But don't make the mistake of thinking that it's the make or break aspect of having a good shower.
For the record, I live for hand me downs and consignment shops, so no problem with that. :