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Elli143 · May 2013

I just found out this morning that I am pregnant again, not on purpose. I still haven't even had a PP period. DD just turned 7 months this week and motherhood has been a really rough experience for me so far. DH and I were planning on waiting 3 years between kids to give us time to adjust to the first one.

To say that I'm freaking out would be an understatement. I'm not a baby person. I think I'll like having kids a lot more when they're older, but motherhood has been the hardest, most life-shattering thing I've ever done. I'm so not at all prepared to have another one.

DH is thrilled and wants to tell his family right away. I want to wait and see if it really pans out. Part of me hopes it doesn't, just because I can't imagine adding another kid to the mix right now.

Oh, and my mom called me yesterday and said she didn't want me to have any more kids with DH until we went through marriage counseling. She said that she actually wanted to tell me not to have kids before we had our first daughter, but I told her I was pregnant the same day she was going to tell me. And less than 24 hours later, here I am pregnant again.

jutimala · May 2013

Take some time and breathe. This LO I am pregnant with was an unexpected, not happy surprise, in fact I was extremely upset with myself. J took the news a lot better than I did and he too was ready to tell people before I was. I made him promise not to tell anyone until I was ready and I was ok (maybe not happy but accepting) with what was going on, it took me until almost 20 weeks.

I do not like babies. I just don't, I never have. I love my kids but I would much prefer them after the age of 1 (and I had easy children), so this is going to be hard for me to do again. I have finally become accepting of the way things are going to be and while I know it will be hard and test my marriage some more I know I will work hard to make sure everything turns out ok.

Tell your mom when you are ready, she can't change anything now so as long as she is accepting then everything will be ok. Its already happened so hopefully she will help you to get through it in one piece. My mom didn't care either way and I still waited until I was ready, at 18 weeks, to tell her.

Good Luck!

coadyk01 · May 2013

I am sorry that you are so scared. Honestly, I am guessing that a lot of the moms on this board didn't plan on 2U2. I know I didn't. Like the PP said, take some time to relax and breathe. At first, I was upset too, mostly because I had finally stopped nursing and was so excited to get my body back to myself, only to find out I was sacrificing it again.

But this is why the body gives you 9+ months, so you can mentally prepare. Good luck!!

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