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Night two in the night weaning saga...

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I'm just hoping there won't be night 200 at this point.

We're off to a rough start. Despite me telling him approximately fifteen times that I would be home in time to nurse DD before bed (I had to visit a friend), DH warmed her up a bottle. Which of course only set her off, so she was crying when I got home around 8:15. I tried to feed her but she kept pushing away, so I put her in her bed. 

Cue the screaming.

I went in and comforted her after 3 minutes, and then after 5, and then at 10 minutes I picked her up to feed her because I thought she might still be hungry since she'd just messed around earlier and hadn't drank hardly any of the bottle, either. And she was, so she nursed both sides really well but started screaming again when I put her in her crib. This time, though, she settled down in less than 3 minutes and she's asleep now. 

If she wakes around 11 or midnight I'll top her off, but after that I'm only going to offer one breast and then it's back to bed. Tomorrow I'm going to start cutting back the time on those night nursings by a minute. She did do a lot better nursing during the day today, so I feel like we're already making progress. I just hope taking the slow road works. Even letting her cry for a few minutes breaks my heart, because she just sounds like she's in absolute distress.

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Re: Night two in the night weaning saga...

  • imageJessiebug81:
    Oh man, I do not envy you. I hope the night is a wonderful success and that you get sleep without tears!

    Let's hope so. Part of me feels like I should've done this when she was a little younger, and part of me wishes I could just continue on our merry organic way of sleeping and eating when we need to :( I just feel like I'm not doing her any favors right now if I do, and I know I'm wrecking myself.

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    Hugs. Sounds like you have a great plan, hang in there.
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  • You are doing great! Remember it takes time, patience, and consistency. Keep up the good work, mama!
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  • imagemelly918:
    You are doing great! Remember it takes time, patience, and consistency. Keep up the good work, mama!

    This! Just wanted to give you some encouragement. We did sleep training with DS1 when he was about 9 months old. He was used to falling asleep while nursing and we had to break that habit. We did some similar things. One of us would actually sit in the room at first, then we slowly weaned that away as well. I just wanted to let you know he is an awesome sleeper now and has been since we did this. Sometimes I wished it hadn't gone so well, because he never wanted to snuggle much at bedtime then. We would read his stories, rock for maybe a minute, then he wanted to go into his crib! It is worth it! 

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    imagemelly918:
    You are doing great! Remember it takes time, patience, and consistency. Keep up the good work, mama!

    This! Just wanted to give you some encouragement. We did sleep training with DS1 when he was about 9 months old. He was used to falling asleep while nursing and we had to break that habit. We did some similar things. One of us would actually sit in the room at first, then we slowly weaned that away as well. I just wanted to let you know he is an awesome sleeper now and has been since we did this. Sometimes I wished it hadn't gone so well, because he never wanted to snuggle much at bedtime then. We would read his stories, rock for maybe a minute, then he wanted to go into his crib! It is worth it! 

    This totally made me start crying. I know it's better for her to be able to comfort herself but I want to cuddle her right now. 

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  • It's so hard to hear them cry....! I'll be keeping my fx that things go smoothly!
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  • Huge hugs!!! I hate the screechy screams... DS does that sometimes.. Like you said it only lasts a minute or two, but the sounds is heart wrenching... Hoping you have a smooth night!!!
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  • You guys, I can't do it. I just feel miserable and she's miserable and nothing about this makes me feel good. I just bought the no-cry sleep solution on my Kindle and I'm going to read it until *I* cry myself to sleep. There's got to be another way.
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  • That sounds like progress!  GL with the night feedings.  Hopefully you'll be able to get rid of those soon.  The last one to go for me was the 11pm top off.  I grew to like it as that was pure snuggle time and often our only real snuggle time once he was on the move all day.  I kept it for a while as I enjoyed our time together and it seemed to help him sleep longer.  
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  • Hugs I hope sleep training works fast for you. It's so hard to just let them cry! Fx it gets easier.

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