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starting to reconsider vbac?
ok- i have a lot on my mind and so i'm sorry if this sounds "rambly" but i need to get my thoughts out somewhere and see if i can get some feedback...
i've been set on having a vbac since the day that i had my c/s with DS. I labored for about 36 hours and after pushing a while the DR said i should have a cs so they didn't have to break his shoulder. He was 8lb 13 oz and had a really big head and broad shoulders. I'm also 4'11'' with a tilted cervix.. Even though it was not a good experience and I didn't like or trust my doctors at the end, I know it was good decision.
now here i am at 38 weeks.(with a new dr that i totally love and trust) i'm still hoping for a vbac but i know (due to risks and dr procedure) i need to go into labor on my own in order to try. if i dilate to at least a 3 or 4 she will consider breaking my water. i've been a 1 and 70% since my first check at 36 weeks. while baby was head down at last u/s around 28 weeks, he has since turned sideways and stayed that way... each day that comes and goes, i feel less optimistic for my vbac. i dont mind being pregnant but i'd also love to meet my baby.
Anyway, does anyone have some encouraging words to help me stick to my plan! If i'm still a 1 and 70% next week, i'm going to have a harder time convincing myself why i should wait until over 40 wks. i feel like if they're going to take him (by c/s) before he's ready either way, what difference does a few days make... one pro for waiting is that my mom can't come until june 12 so she'd be more help the closer she is to the baby birth anyway but the latest the dr said she'd let me wait would be june 7- maybe june 10 so she still wouldn't be here to help while i'm in the hospital anyway..
one last thing- dr suggested stripping my membranes next week. i'm wondering if i should. is it painful? is it worth it? will it make a difference if i'm only at a 1 anyway? i reallly don't want to labor to end up with a c/s anyway..
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Re: starting to reconsider vbac?
Dont get discouraged!! not that i dont get there a couple times a day these days. I'm almost 41 weeks, my doctor wont let me go any further than monday then he'll induce me. I was stuck at 1 cm and about 70% effaced since 36 weeks but finally at my 40 week appointment i progressed to 2cm!! haha i was happy about that. He ended up stripping my membranes, which really doesn't feel anymore uncomfortable than when they check, they are just in there a few more seconds than usual. I had cramping/contractions the rest of the day but subsided eventually and are back to every now and then. hasn't brought on labor or anything yet but that was just yesterday.
i don't know if you said your due date but when is it? I'd push for your dr to let you go at least 10 to 2 weeks overdue since your baby can be born anywhere in the month between 38 weeks to 42 weeks. its obviously your decision, but if you've been wanting a vbac since your last birth, i'd try to stick it out. have faith your body can do it (which is can!)
Due date is June 5. I've already asked about pushing back the date but the latest she said she'd feel comfortable with is June 7 - possibly June 10 (depending on where I am at 40 wks).. The reason I couldn't deliver DS naturally was due to size and she feels the longer I wait, the higher that chance is that i'll need an emergency c/s- thus increasing my risks. i def want to do what is safest with the least amount of risk to baby and me- even if that means rcs..
If it was my last DR- I would totally argue this point. i felt like they wanted my pregnancy to be on their timetable and to happen when they wanted.. but with this DR- I def trust her medical opinion. She's only been my DR for about 2 years but she has been the DR/OB of at least 6 other people that I know and they all trust her completely as well. Plus, my aunt argued against her DR and insisted on a VBAC (which she was able to do) but it ended in complications for both her and the baby (everything is fine now..) but I know that I don't know as much as her and don't want to end up in a situation like my aunt..
thanks for the motivation tho! you're right- I can do this!