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Late Term and Child Loss
Okay, well my church kind of sucks...
I finally sent a message to my hometown church today asking for thoughts and prayers on their Fb page... They post prayer concerns and I don't think my family told anyone... Well they did a hack job of cutting and pasting my message to them as a prayer concern on the page... So much so that you can barely read it. The others they post are nice... I wish I'd never even asked now... Everything I've sought out has turned out like this... 
Oh and on a different note, the hospital said they were going to have their grief counselors contact me... It's been almost 3 weeks and I've heard nothing... When exactly should they be doing that???? I have lost faith in people and while I laugh and joke I really have lost faith in most people...
Oh and on a different note, the hospital said they were going to have their grief counselors contact me... It's been almost 3 weeks and I've heard nothing... When exactly should they be doing that???? I have lost faith in people and while I laugh and joke I really have lost faith in most people...
DD 9-10-10
DS 5-3-13 our sweet angel boy
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Re: Okay, well my church kind of sucks...
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
ETA I think part of it may also be that one of my friends also an angel mom of a full term still birth just had a baby boy monday. Our daughters are best friends and I hoped these two babies would be too... :
Thats how I feel two. It will be two weeks for me tomorrow but everyone already seems to have moved on but me.
We can listen to eachother.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
Its too hard not to think about the what ifs when we don't have answers as to why. I am sure that I will never really know why until I am with her again and then I might not even care.
My hubby seems to be handling it differently then me which is ok b/c everyone handles it different. He has not been angry like I have. I am almost out of tears.
Are you able to talk to your Pastor about the prayer request that got half done?
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
Im sorry that things didnt get posted the way you wanted on the facebook page. Perhaps you could just comment on the post they did and say, "Thank you for your thoughts and prayers as we mourn the loss of our son." Then you can take care of it. A lot of people do not know how to handle our situations and mess everything up. I wish I could tell you it would be the last time, but it wont be. People will continue to be insensitive to the situation. But hopefully there will be some bright spots in there too and you will continue to have people who will support you.
As for the grief counselor, my guess is they should have contacted you by now. I know the one we met with briefly was the grief counselor for 5 hospitals in the area (!!!). How the heck they think one person can service so many hospitals is beyond me. They were not very helpful either. I found that seeking out my own grief counselor to be more helpful.
My DH and I have really grieved differently. Normally I cry every few days. Until last weekend, he hadn't cried since the week she passed. A lot of times guys do not want to think about it, because they dont know how to deal with it. They want to fix it, and they cant.
Thoughts and prayers for you! (And I mean that!)
I am really sorry that your church and hospital are not there supporting you like you need to be right now. My hospital never called and I hope to God no one calls me for a follow up review. I would loose it if they did.
It has been 6 weeks since Arianna passed, there isn't a day that goes by that I want to break down and cry. It doesn't seem to get better, I am just learning how to function again. There are days that I can't seem to cry at all, I feel like those days are the worse. Crying helps let emotion out and I feel better after crying. I feel like it is the anti depressant is the reason why I can not cry on some days.
I had so much support right after her passing by my friends. I have been distant and not my normal self so in the past four weeks their texts have decreased and they don't stop over anymore to visit. I can't blame them though, they don't know how to talk about everything. I have been finding myself closer to my dh, he is my sole support system right now. He will never feel as much pain over loosing her like I do, but he didn't carry her with him all the time, he didn't have the kind of bonding like I did.
I am sorry about everything again, We are all here for you
I am sure every hospital is different, but I would say it was right around three weeks when the grief counselor contacted me from the hospital. I think their thinking is, right after your loss, most people are surrounded by well wishers and support, but after a few weeks it dies down and the support isn't as constant. Maybe they are waiting until you need it the most.
I'm sorry your church did that, can you contact them to fix it? Hugs!
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