WWYD Poll - regarding a theft (not BF related)

bebe11 · May 2013

Someone that cleans the offices in the building that I work in stole one of my personal checks, and was made payable to his cousin's wife, but they used her maiden last name. This is all confirmed after some investigating and the cleaning company checking names of their employees. I filed a police report yesterday, before I had all this information and they want me to press charges, as does my husband. The guy is fired from his job, and I will get my $800 back from the bank.

WWYD - file a supplemental with the above information, and press charges or just be satisfied that he lost his job and you are getting your money back?

A couple of my cubemates know this person, from when they work late during tax time and said he was really nice and once he even turned in money he found.

naenay797 · May 2013

I am a police officer and the way it works in our state is as soon as the bank reimburses you, you are no longer the victim. The bank becomes the victim. But it may be different where you live. FWIW I would press charges. It's probably not the first time he has done something like this and $800 is a lot of money he stole from you.

bebe11 · May 2013

naenay797:
I am a police officer and the way it works in our state is as soon as the bank reimburses you, you are no longer the victim. The bank becomes the victim. But it may be different where you live. FWIW I would press charges. It's probably not the first time he has done something like this and $800 is a lot of money he stole from you.

My hubby is a police officer too, but for a different agency where this happend. I can't reach him to find out what I need to do. I am just torn because I hate dealing with stuff like this.

graciesmurf · May 2013

I would file a report and press charges.

What if he lies on his resume? When he applies for his next job they might not do a reference check to that company, but they'll do a background.

new+tothis · May 2013

Unfortunately, I don't think this is up to you. I had my debit card # stolen last year. I had to sign the police report stating that I gave them all information and didn't know who took my card. If I found out more information about who took it I was to contact them immediately. Did you sign something like that?

It's not up to you to press charges. You give the police all the info you have and let them handle it. $800 is quite a bit and you need to let the system handle it.

Ilumine · May 2013

Of course I would press charges.

The loss of his job is the consequence of his actions. His employer lost trust in him.

Having criminal charges brought against him and going to jail are is the punishment for his actions.

TWO SEPARATE THINGS.

bosoxy · May 2013

I don't know if you have a choice. Same thing happened to me. The bank made me file a police report.

blondii428 · May 2013

I would feel personally violated and would press charges based off pure morals. Look into what PP said about the bank being the victim thought. I used to be a personal banker and helped customers file fraud claims daily. We were required to ask whether or not the customer would be willing to press charges, but I'm not sure if that was the bank pressing the charges or the customer.

bebe11 · May 2013

bosoxy:
I don't know if you have a choice. Same thing happened to me. The bank made me file a police report.

Since it is under $1,000 it isn't grand theft, so maybe that is why the bank didn't even suggest that I file. I typed up my new info and will drop it off at the station and see where it goes. I was snooping on FB and apparently they are in a gang, or at least the cousin of the suspect, who's wife cashed the check.

Tasheystar · May 2013

OMG Wendi! That's INSANE.

OP, like pps said, you may not be able to, but I'd press charges if I could.

Littlejen22 · May 2013

bebe11:
bosoxy:
I don't know if you have a choice.  Same thing happened to me.  The bank made me file a police report.  
Since it is under $1,000 it isn't grand theft, so maybe that is why the bank didn't even suggest that I file.  I typed up my new info and will drop it off at the station and see where it goes.  I was snooping on FB and apparently they are in a gang, or at least the cousin of the suspect, who's wife cashed the check.

Honestly I would let the police deal with it because I am a wus and would not press charges against a gang member. Politically correct answer is to tell you to press charges though.

blush64 · May 2013

I would not let this go. Being fired is not enough.

tallywah08 · May 2013

Make sure it's in the system they tried to do check fraud for other potential victims!

karatechrissy · May 2013

I had my purse stolen about a month ago. They had all my info, cards, everything (I'm pretty sure I posted a very long winded cry baby post about it here...). I had to close my bank act and open a new one (same bank just new account) get new checks, new cards, switch all our automatic withdrawals over...it was a headache. BUT I'm now secure in that they can't get to my money if they tried.

Also, please flag your credit through the credit bureaus. They only need a few tidbits of info to start doing things to your credit. If they were malicious enough to write the check to someone else in his family and use a maiden name, they OBVIOUSLY were trying to cover their tracks. People like this are conniving and they don't give to shiiits about you and will do whatever just to get their own agenda taken care of. I know you probably feel bad that he was a 'nice guy', but nice guys don't do shizz like that. If he were nice, he wouldn't have put you through that headache. You can't let yourself 'feel bad' about people who VICTIMIZE YOU.

As far as pressing charges, when it happened to me ($500 was stolen and multiple charges were made on my cards), I just had to bring in the police report, and my money was refunded. The bank was then responsible for going after whoever stole my things. I have not a clue what ended up happening with it.

Wahoo · May 2013

bebe11:
Someone that cleans the offices in the building that I work in stole one of my personal checks, and was made payable to his cousin's wife, but they used her maiden last name. This is all confirmed after some investigating and the cleaning company checking names of their employees. I filed a police report yesterday, before I had all this information and they want me to press charges, as does my husband. The guy is fired from his job, and I will get my $800 back from the bank.
WWYD - file a supplemental with the above information, and press charges or just be satisfied that he lost his job and you are getting your money back?
A couple of my cubemates know this person, from when they work late during tax time and said he was really nice and once he even turned in money he found.

WTF? "Nice" people do not steal $800! This is not some guy who stole $40 to buy diapers and formula for his baby. It's also not as if he turned himself in because he felt guilty and offered to pay restitution on his own.

Maybe he SEEMED nice, but he is NOT nice! I would be po'd if anyone claimed that a person who stole from me was "nice."

Personally, from having had my home burglerized, I would press charges. (My experience) I really felt violated. Whether or not to press charges was not my decision (the police did that). However, when it was time, I did go to court and read a victim's statement for all three people involved in the theft. They were all ordered to pay restitution (for my insurance deductible). I am SO happy I did that - - I felt I took my power back. I was shocked that no one else that had been robbed by this group did the same (there were at least 2 other thefts by the same group). In my case, the thieves were young guys in their 20's who were probably not hardened criminals, but who stole from me and others to get money to get stoned / party. But just because they were relatively young and not hardened criminals doesn't mean they were NICE!!!

I would file a report (if it is an option for you). It may make it easier for you down the road if someone in that group uses your personal info for identity theft (also, you can get free credit checks from the bureaus and maybe even free credit lockdown if you are a victim of theft). Also, you will be protecting the next person who feels they can be trusting around him (ie: another office worker who has their office cleaned - - even if he got fired from this job, he could probably be hired for some other low-wage cleaning or landscaping or construction job).

bebe11 · May 2013

I did have to close my bank account and open a new one, that was pretty simple. Now the headache of contacting all the companies that have my account linked for auto pay.

I ended up writing up a supplemental to my original report and dropped it off at the police station yesterday. The lady who I talked to said that regardless if I specify that I want to press charges, the guy would more than likely be prosecuted because he committed a crime. At this point, I will just wait and see when the detective contacts me. I did see the $800 credit in my account this morning, so I am no longer the victim. It's crazy because the guy at the bank didn't seem to really care that I knew who took the money. My H was pissed because he said the banks are insured so they more than likely won't even do anything to recoup their loss.

ambrvan · May 2013

Wahoo:
bebe11:
Someone that cleans the offices in the building that I work in stole one of my personal checks, and was made payable to his cousin's wife, but they used her maiden last name. This is all confirmed after some investigating and the cleaning company checking names of their employees.  I filed a police report yesterday, before I had all this information and they want me to press charges, as does my husband.  The guy is fired from his job, and I will get my $800 back from the bank.
WWYD - file a supplemental with the above information, and press charges or just be satisfied that he lost his job and you are getting your money back? 
A couple of my cubemates know this person, from when they work late during tax time and said he was really nice and once he even turned in money he found.
WTF?  "Nice" people do not steal $800! This is not some guy who stole $40 to buy diapers and formula for his baby. It's also not as if he turned himself in because he felt guilty and offered to pay restitution on his own.
Maybe he SEEMED nice, but he is NOT nice! I would be po'd if anyone claimed that a person who stole from me was "nice." 
Personally, from having had my home burglerized, I would press charges.  (My experience) I really felt violated.  Whether or not to press charges was not my decision (the police did that). However, when it was time, I did go to court and read a victim's statement for all three people involved in the theft. They were all ordered to pay restitution (for my insurance deductible). I am SO happy I did that - - I felt I took my power back.  I was shocked that no one else that had been robbed by this group did the same (there were at least 2 other thefts by the same group).  In my case, the thieves were young guys in their 20's who were probably not hardened criminals, but who stole from me and others to get money to get stoned / party.  But just because they were relatively young and not hardened criminals doesn't mean they were NICE!!!
I would file a report (if it is an option for you). It may make it easier for you down the road if someone in that group uses your personal info for identity theft (also, you can get free credit checks from the bureaus and maybe even free credit lockdown if you are a victim of theft). Also, you will be protecting the next person who feels they can be trusting around him (ie: another office worker who has their office cleaned - - even if he got fired from this job, he could probably be hired for some other low-wage cleaning or landscaping or construction job).

Duh, file charges! If you even have a choice, that is. I have ZERO tolerance for theft. That makes the entire world suffer and have to pay. Why do insuranceor premiums and store prices and bank fees and such keep going up? To make the people who will abide by the law pay for the people who will not. And this is all coming from someone who actually has a father in prison. I love my father very much, but what he did was very wrong. And although he is not a bad person, he still must pay for his actions. Same for this guy. Good or bad, he committed a crime, and he should have to pay the consequences, which are probably too light anyway.

BM has been convicted of intentional check fraud under 1000 THREE times and violated probation each time, and she had yet to serve more than 10 days at a time in jail.

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