Hey guys!
My husband and I are entertaining the idea of having a child. I never thought I'd see the day. I'm 31 and my husband is 34. We were happy with our careers and didn't think we'd ever feel the pull to become parents. But now I can't stop thinking about a soft baby in my arms. Our lives are fantastic the way they are, but could we be missing out on something brilliant? I went from shying away from children, to adoring my friends' little ones. My question is: who else out there feels the same way? I know many people on this site are positive they want to be parents. But there must be someone out there like me trying to make this beautiful decision, so close to diving in but maybe wanting a fellow first timer to brave this new journey with. Is anyone else teetering on the edge of parenthood? If so, want to go this together? Share concerns, freak out, take the plunge, holds hands along the way?
- V
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Ahhh! That is EXACTLY how I feel. Before, I would preach to my husband how badly a baby would ruin our life. Now, that door is just crack, crackin' away. Ha! And you're so right; every few weeks, the door opens wider and I get braver / more curious about peeking out. I think I finally have a foot out the door: I got off BC (still using a back up), and am on prenatals, but taking that last leap is SO scary! How did you do it?
- V
Well as the ladies on these boards have all said, the odds of getting pregnant are only about 20% each month, and it can take a healthy couple up to a year, so I wouldn't stress about it too much. Probably my favorite baby book so far has been "Do Chocolate Lover's Have Sweeter Babies?" by Jena pincott. It was not only a very entertaining read, but it delved into much more biological topics than the standard "What to Expect" books usually do.
Oh, and one item on my bucket list is to go ride all the roller coasters I can with my BFF and I am soooo excited about it! Fun items make the wait less of a struggle.
Hey! That's what we've been doing. The last year we've been stocking money away and doing things to the house, etc. But man, taking that final step and actually trying scares me. I'm 31, yet I keep thinking, "But I want to do this and this and this." I think I've had too many moms telling me that "Your life is over once you have a kid." That can't be totally true, can it? *sigh*
I never thought I would have children before I met/married my husband. I didn't decide I definitely wanted one until I was 32.
Now I'm 35 and my daughter is almost 15 months old. I am still happy in my career. You don't need to throw away your old life when you have a baby. I am still very much the way I was before, only better because now I get to be her mom too.