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MissSusieQ
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Baby 2
MissSusieQ
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Baby 2 is due days after BM's birthday. I know I'm crazy but I'm praying baby doesn't come on BMs birthday. 1 I don't want my child sharing their birthday with the wicked witch. 2 I don't want to have to fight with BM for us to have SS even for a few hours to meet his new sibling.
I'm selfish and just want it to be special for us and don't want to feel like we are connected to her in any other way than SS.
I'm selfish and just want it to be special for us and don't want to feel like we are connected to her in any other way than SS.
Proud Step Mom to Zachary 10-26-98
Loving Wife to Billy 04-28-07
Proud mom to Jeremy 08-15-08
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Re: Baby 2
My LO is due around the same time as my birthday and BM's birthday. I don't have those witchy feelings about BM, but I do want my LO to have her own day to celebrate. I can understand the frustrations of this situation tho.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
This baby is due on what was my wedding anniversary to XH. If he comes on time, then I'll just have a new reason to remember that date, NBD. I'm secretly hoping he comes a week early like DS did, and then he'll be on/around my wedding anniversay to DH.
I'm pretty sure if your baby comes on her b-day, you'll see it as your CHILD's bday, not hers. Or, maybe that's just me.
You're being petty and ridiculous. I mean I get it that having a kid on your other child's mother's birthday puts a cramp in your style but really, that's all it does. Like it or not, you are connected to this woman and all your bullish about only wanted to be connected through your stepchild and THAT'S IT is beyond the dumbest thing I've heard in a while. That's a really big connection, no "only" about it and you sound petty and bitter in all of your phrasing here.
And truth be told, it will not be the end of the world if one kid waits 24 hours to meet the new baby. Once upon a time, that's exactly how it happened. At the end of the day, these children are siblings who are tied together through love. They will get their moment to bond. Pinky didn't meet her sister for months after she was born. But that's still her baby sister.
I think there's a way to feel about this that makes sense and isn't selfish, petty, and snotty at all, a way that's reasonable. But your choice of phrasing here suggests that's not the case. You need to stop and readjust your outlook here.
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I don't know how I missed this the first time, but are you serious?? My baby is due on XH's weekend and it's never once crossed my mind to ask him to switch if the baby comes on time. It's XH's time with DS and DS can meet the baby when he comes home.
You're right though....you're selfish.
DH just said this is his LO too and he would prefer he doesn't share a birthday with that Biatch (he actually used the C word). And Yes we are ONLY connected to her through SS. Obviously you don't know our situation and don't deal with a crazy selfish BM that makes everything about her and always puts SS last. That being said we can be selfish because this is our child and we think its important for our children to connect from the beginning!
You sure flipped sides quickly. Follow the leader much? Let me ask you this when you got married did you want your DS there? Did you pick your date for your wedding so he could be there and be involved? That is just as selfish a decision as DH and I wanting SS to meet his new sibling shortly after they are born. He was there when DS was born and the first to hold him after DH and myself. And I know that is an experience he will never forget.
He refers to her as the C word????
You are a piece of work.
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At that moment yes he did because she totally can be one.
Look Susie, I know you think I am just a snarky *** but really I am not being that way and I only read the last two replies so I do not know what the leader was saying or who they are but only know whatbisbwritten in these posts quoted plus the original post. I disagree with the OP about you should not want your SD to meet the child the day the baby is born. I think most people feel a child should meet their sibling before extended family especially in a BF. DS was born by csection at 934 at night with general anesthesia so I was not having guests that night and SD was 17 without a license so she needed someone to drive her but did not need a babysitter so DH brought her the next day. My DD was born when things were really bad with SD and DS came that night because DD was born without general anesthesia and at noon so I was ready to have visitors that night.
If you cannot have her that day it will be fine but I get being disappointed.
But we have a selfabsorbed BM that has seen SD about 24 days in 11 years and never called us once to see how SD really was even though she guilt tripped SD about how she wants her back. But I don't use the C word b
It's not like we just walk around and call her the C word all the time. DH has his reasons why he choose this particular word.
Everyone's situation is absolutely different. We have tried and tried over the years to be friendly with BM if for nothing else than for SS sake. He deserves to see his parents get along and be civil. Every day either of us deal with her it is a struggle but we make it through.
If LO is born on BMs birthday we will make it through. It's just something that ran through my mind and I wanted to share. Fortunately enough we have enough family to bring SS over to meet LO if not born when we have SS. Then again with the way BM is acting these days she may not let SS come to the hospital either. These are all bridges we will have to cross when the time comes and things that are all in the back of my mind.