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Rude to eat during a meeting with SW?

CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
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Hi, I just have a quick etiquette question.  Tonight is M's 3-year post-placement meeting (Can you believe it?  3 years in July!) with our sw.  We've been working with her since 2008, and we've all become very familiar with one another.

Since she almost always comes during dinner time, we sometimes eat or feed the boys while she's there.  We always ask her to join us, but she always refuses.  Tonight, she was able to come an hour earlier than normal.  My husband is already home and feeding the boys, and I will arrive home right when she's expected to come, at 6.

Would it be rude of me to eat while she's there?  I will probably wait until she leaves, but the visits sometimes take as long as two hours, and if I get hungry, would it be awful of me to eat, even though the rest of the family already has?

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Re: Rude to eat during a meeting with SW?

  • IRRIRR member
    I think if the visit lasts more than an hour at that point you say, "hey I am really hungry since I haven't eaten since work, I am going to grab something to eat, would you like to join me?"  This way you are inviting her to eat with you but also saying you are going to pass out if you don't eat something soon.  GL.
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    Yeah, I ate.
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    The visit went fine.  It really doesn't matter at all, as far as we are concerned, since our adoption was finalized in Peru, but we are contractually obligated to send reports to Peru every 6 months for the first four years.  It's their way of ensuring that the children are in good homes.  If they see a trend of disturbing situations or if the reports aren't filed, they would stop placing children in American homes, so that's why we all keep doing it.

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