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remind me... the 1st month

beachgirl1977beachgirl1977 member
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what was it like. I am surrounded my newborns and it doens;t seem to be how I remember it. 

My neighbor's 3 day is on a schedule.. parents keep saying such an easy baby.. This is not hard at hard  

My bf is of the attitude-- not sure what the bg deal about havnga baby is... can't be that hard.  (she is due soon) Life doesn't change

 other neighbor has a 2 month old has sleep through the night since 1 month

I remember being up at night, baby eating a lot, trouble nursing, and not wanting to leave the house much. Maybe I made a abog deal over nothing, ut I remember the 1st month was hard rewarding but hard.

DH and I joked how we said we had the easiest baby in the hospital too and had no idea what everyone said it was hard. Then we came home on day 4 and baby woke up..... 

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Re: remind me... the 1st month

  • mnj05mnj05 member
    Every baby is different. DS has put himself on a schedule since day one and it's only changed recently as he's started being awake more during the day, but he's still on a schedule. He has always been a good sleeper, not matter the time of day and isn't fussy unless he's hungry or gets overly tired. Our life really hasn't changed dramatically. We go out just as much as we used to (after I recovered from my c/s anyway), we plan vacations to the same places, make spur of the moment trips if we need to. I don't plan around his eating and sleeping times every time we go out and it's worked out for us.

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  • VPGIRL06VPGIRL06 member
    All babies are different. While PP may be able to not consider eating or feeding schedules, we do because my LO won't just sleep anywhere and has feeding issues. So it's going to depend on your LO, really. And even then they will change on you...week to week in the beginning then the changes are farther apart.

    I would say go with the flow of your baby. If they seem to be eating/ sleeping at a certain time then I say go for it and schedule them. If they are a little more irregular then that's fine too!

    Don't ever think an easy baby is "better". I know people who have a 14 week old baby that sleeps well and is on the EASY schedule...and the mom is very confident when she tells me that's what she does to get him to sleep anywhere and sleep well, when my LO is struggling with 45 min naps that need to be in dark rooms. However my LO, at 10 weeks, is even more expressive and alert than her LO is....she makes more faces and seems more aware of her surroundings, and is much much more active! So it makes sense that sleeping is harder for her, than a baby who is a little more laid back. And that's fine! She gets what she needs and that's all I can ask for
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  • ShadyKullShadyKull member

    Yep, newborns are tough. No one I have ever talked to has said that having a newborn is easy. Even if the baby is super "easy", it is still a big life adjustment and a lot of work. I think a lot of people in real life brag about the ways that their baby is easy, but don't like to mention all the difficult parts for fear of looking like a less than perfect parent. I think your BF is in for a surprise if she thinks that life doesn't change with a baby. 

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  • brauchtmbrauchtm member
    I am on day 5 and it is tough.  Not bc of her being easy or difficult but bc I don't know how to read her yet.  Together we are learning cues and likes/dislikes every day but its definitely a challenge.  
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  • PippaLee33PippaLee33 member

    Personally, I think the first month (and then some) totally sucked with both my LO's... I was beyond exhausted physically and emotionally, my body felt and looked disgusting, and I spent most of my day on the couch with my boobs hanging out while trying to "enjoy" all the well meaning friends and family who just couldn't wait to meet the baby.  

    People who feel the need to brag about how newborns are "so easy" obviously are too far removed to remember what it was actually like to have one or haven't had one long enough to learn that as soon as you think you've figured it all out, the baby flips the switch and you feel like you are starting all over again.   

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  • erinmc1erinmc1 member
    Some days are awesome, and some nights I wish there was a return policy.  Being a new parent is hard.  My hubby recently deployed, and I've done most of the parenting solo, and I can tell you, it ain't no bed of roses, especially when LO is too young to interact and really reward your bonding yet.  Now that he's starting to giggle and smile socially, it feels way more fulfilling.  Always being "on" for visitors doesn't help, either. 
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  • doremi29doremi29 member
    In my experience it totally depends on the baby.  DS was a tough newb once he woke up (took him a good 2 weeks) but DD has been extremely easy so far.  People have told me "oh, that's because she's your 2nd- it's just easier your 2nd time around".  I disagree.  DS wasn't hard because we didn't know what we were doing.  He was just a tougher kid.  DD is easier at this point.
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