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It doesn't take a genius.

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So XSS has been contemplating a move to Iowa or Texas because once again, he needs to get out of a mess he's in down there in Florida and needs a job.

While watching the news at lunch, it became very obvious to me what the answer was - Moore, Oklahoma.

I texted XH and said, "You know where he should go? Moore, OK.  They will put him up and feed him during the clean up and after there will be tons of construction jobs."

and then I added, "But don't tell him I said so."

I am 95% sure he will never go, but if I were in his shoes - that's exactly what I would do.  It's a no brainer. He roofs, has some masonry training, and has done general construction.  If not there, West, TX is close to where XH is from , which is also not all that far from Cleburne and Granbury (Sp?) What's there to think about??

Take your pick XSS. Go help other people for a change. Do some good in this world.  And stay the hell out of Iowa.

"he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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Re: It doesn't take a genius.

  • Wantalil1Wantalil1
    Why do you care? 
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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member
    Disengage! This is none of your business. I say this with your best interest at heart. Stop caring. The people in OK don't need this BSC dude in their state.
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  • docco11docco11 member
    All of the above.  It seems like you have been focusing lately what the ex-family is up to.  If it doesn't directly impact your daughter, then who cares. 
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    I CARE because the option is he moves HERE, which means he will be near my daughter, where I don't want him. I don't give 2 shits about XSS. I care about my daughter. Period. It's easier to encourage him to go elsewhere than to fight it if he comes here.

    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member
    And in case you haven't read it, for further information on the situation,  I posted earlier this week. See "Suspicious".
    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    You need to let go. Are you seeing a therapist? If not, find one. Ask on ways to move on
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    imagewendilea:
    J, let them figure it out.nbsp; You've got an ironclad CO thatnbsp; XSS can't be around LO, so don't worry about the other details.nbsp; Why do you even know he's thinking of moving?nbsp; Move ON with your life and stay out of their mess.

    I could be wrong but I think her CO only states that he cannot be left alone with DD. I totally understand why she is super concerned because he is a druggie and her ex is in total denial about his kids and would not think to checking the house for drugs. But I do agree that she needs to move on because these suggestions will not be listened to and her ex will continue to expect her to take care of things and come up with ideas for him and his children just as he has always done and still expects. He will not stop asking your for help with things that you should not be involved in if you keep involving yourself in things.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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  • karatechrissykaratechrissy member
    If I were J, I would be texting exH the same exact thing. She cares because that keeps him OUT of where they are, and away from DD. If her ex hadn't said anything about him thinking of moving there, she probably wouldn't have even given it a first thought, but now that the POSSIBILITY is swirling in her head, she wants to keep him away. Be that little birdie that chirps on exH's ear J. He obviously thinks of you as a confidant of sorts, and if that will get XSS to stay away from your DD, good for you. 
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  • Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member

    imagekaratechrissy:
    If I were J, I would be texting exH the same exact thing. She cares because that keeps him OUT of where they are, and away from DD. If her ex hadn't said anything about him thinking of moving there, she probably wouldn't have even given it a first thought, but now that the POSSIBILITY is swirling in her head, she wants to keep him away. Be that little birdie that chirps on exH's ear J. He obviously thinks of you as a confidant of sorts, and if that will get XSS to stay away from your DD, good for you. 

    If the shoe were on the other foot, people would be screaming controlling.  She is trying to control her XSS, who is none of her business. She needs to let go. It is only causing her anxiety and stress. She can't keep playing the what if games in her head. IF the XSS shows up, then she needs to worry. This family sounds like they have a lot of hot air and no follow through. 

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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member
    The ex has a family that never follows through with anything. The XSS talking about moving back could be 10 years away. The OP needs to focus on her DD only and what's going on right now.
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
    O J, I was hoping this was not about your ex or his family.
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  • hindsight's_a_biotchhindsight's_a_biotch member
    You know waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much about these people and have waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much discussion about their lives.


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