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thoughts on guests in a hotel vs your house

beachgirl1977beachgirl1977 member
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we are visiting a family member when their new baby is 2 weeks old I offered to stay in a hotel because I know what the first few weeks are like. But I am a private person who likes a break every so often.   They would put my husband and 2 kids in their master bedroom and they would sleep in the guest room. I feel really bad and don't want to offend them but think a hotel would be easier for them. My kids have lots of energy and for the 1st trip I thought it would be nice to give them some space. 

The baby is only 2 or 3 days old so still in that sleepy stage where everything is smooth and easy. 

Part of it is also thinking of my boys who I think might need a a break and change of scenery.  Not sure what their thoughts are with outings with a newborn. Some people are really strict, others go everywhere.

Would you be offended if a close family member offered to stay in a hotel 

Edit  the hotel would be no cost to use due to DH's job

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Re: thoughts on guests in a hotel vs your house

  • CorleyraeCorleyrae member
    Lurker, but as long as you wouldnt be asking them to pay I see no problem. In hindsight Im sure they would like the break. Also at the hotel you could have a pool and be able to do something with your kids if you need to leave.
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  • youenjoymyselfyouenjoymyself member
    At that stage, I preferred that family and friends stayed in a hotel.  I even asked them to - even my parents and ILs.  With an itty bitty baby, you never know what's going to work in terms of soothing him or her.  It could mean blaring music at 3 AM while pacing the halls.  I definitely wanted to do that without other people in the house.  
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  • carig63carig63 member
    I think you're right on. I would prefer to stay in the hotel myself, and I would probably prefer my guests to stay in a hotel too. Then you can give them a break, or take a break yourself. Especially since you have older kids that might not understand why they need to be quiet or not roughhouse. Like a PP said, having a pool could help them blow off some energy and relax you, too.
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  • InkedMegsInkedMegs member

    I would keep insisting to stay in the hotel for the reasons in the PP, and tell her exactly why it's probably a better idea (active kids!)

    But, do you think she might want you to stay with her because she is silently hoping you might be able to offer help?  Just a thought!


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  • beachgirl1977beachgirl1977 member

    I thought she might want help and we will most likely be there a lot helping with meals, etc.  I am thinking more about 6:30 when my kids are ready to go and they want to sleep.  I know they are very relaxed about things, but they will also have had house guests almost the entire 2 weeks before we get there.  I would be ready to snap!!

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