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Love my mother, but...(vent)

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My mom is very sweet...and she's always been the peace-love-and-hippie type.  I usually love that about her, but when it comes to IF, it can be a little frustrating - especially since I was an oopsie, so she doesn't know the emotions I deal with. 

I went home this weekend for a belated Mother's Day celebration.  She emails me today with a list of herbs I should take (which I appreciate) and tells me that if I ever get serious about having a baby, that I should stop eating cheese and red meat.  She was disappointed that when we went out to a Mexican restaurant, I ordered queso and an adult beverage.  Ugh....

IF I get serious??  Hello....I think spending over a thousand dollars and going through a surgery already shows I'm serious.  I know she's oober healthy (hasn't drank alcohol or eaten meat in years), but it's not like I walk around with a queso and margarita IV around all day.  Plus, I had just gotten my period that day!!  Let a girl have a drink!!!



Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
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  • RunCC37RunCC37 member
    That's frustrating when someone you care about has such a different lifestyle and can't understand that even though yours is different, it's just different. Not better or worse. Sigh. Enjoy your drink!! 
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    Me: 32 DH: 35  TTC#1 since March 2012
    Dx: Poor Embryo Quality, Arcuate Uterus, Poor Uterine Blood Flow, Mild Endo, 
           Protein S Deficiency, Sjorgen's Syndrome 

    IUI #1-5: BFN
    Laparoscopy & Hysteroscopy: minimal endo, partial septoplasty
    IVF #1: 10R/6M/6F ~ Day 3 ET = BFN
    IVF #2: 14R/9M/5F ~ transfer canceled ~ all embryos arrested at 1-2 cell stage
    IVF #3: 9R/5M/5F ~ 1 frosty!
    IVF #4 (FET #1): BFN

    IVF #5 (DE IVF #1 with Dr. KK protocol): Currently PREGNANT!!!!!!
    Synthroid + Prednisone + Metformin + Baby Aspirin + Supplements Galore = 15+ pills a day
    Lupron + Lovenox + Delestrogen + IVIG + B/W = 2-5 pokes a day
    19R, 17M, 17F - transferred two Grade A blasts 11/16, four frosties!!!
    Beta #1 11/24 (13dpo/8dp5dt) = 367 ~ Beta #2 11/26 (15dpo/10dp5dt) = 709
    Beta #3 11/29 (18dpo/13dp5dt) = 1,997 ~ Beta #4 12/1 (20dpo/15dp5dt) = 3,403

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  • SnowLady1019SnowLady1019 member

    I'm sorry about her insensitive and ignorant comments. Of course eatting healthy is important, but really if thats all it took I am pretty sure everyone here would gladly give up the junk food and alcohol. Try not to let it bother you, I'm sure she wasn't saying it to hurt you.

    TTC since March 2012

    DX PCOS, HSG Clear, SA Low Morphology

    4/13 - 7/13: Clomid 50mg twice, Clomid 100mg once

    8/13 - 11/13: New RE & Redoing all tests

    12/13: Hopefully start Femera 2.5mg

     

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  • beckynsean11beckynsean11 member

    Aww I'm so sorry! That "if you get serious" bit stings. You have all the cheese, red meat & booze you want unless your Dr tells you otherwise.

    P.S. If you figure out how to set up a queso & margarita IV, hook me up! 


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    SHG 5/10/13: both tubes blocked; HSG 6/28 = Left tube cleared! Right blocked.
    BFP#1 7/20/13 EDD 3/30/14, m/c 8/19/13, D&E 8/21/13, Chromosomal results = normal, female
    Lap & hysteroscopy scheduled for 10/31, right tube cleared, no endo found! ...Happy Halloween!
    Cycle 14: Clomid (50)+ IUI = BFP! EDD 9/16/14~ Rowan Elizabeth born sleeping at 17w4d on 4/12/14 due to IC.
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    Cycle 16: Natural IUI = CP, Cycle 17: Femara (2.5) + IUI = BFN, Cycle 18 Femara (5) + IUI = BFFN, Cycle 19: Break
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  • mlynn333mlynn333 member
    Ugh, that sucks. I would have had a hard time keeping my temper under control

    I've also heard that cheese/ dairy are good for IF. Keep your chin up!
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  • jfb29jfb29 member
    HUGS!  That is hard - I'm sorry your mom doesn't understand what you are going through....Sad

    TTC #1 Since 7/2011

    Me: 30, PCOS with anovulation
    DH: 38, Low Morph & DE
    Rx: Metformin 500mg

    Cycle #1: Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
    Cycle #2: Clomid 150mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
    Cycle #3: Clomid 150mg + Follistim + Ovidrel = No response, Canceled

    Cycle #4: Femara 7.5mg + Gonal-f + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP!!!!

     

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  • ttuprincessttuprincess member

    So sorry. It always seems to sting more when it is a family member who says things like that. 

    Sending you ((hugs)).  

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    DH's SA : Excellent

    Lap and Hysteroscopy June 2012

    DX: PCOS, Stage III Endo, slight Adenomyosis, blocked tube, and probable LPD

    Treatments:  6 Months Lupron Depot injections; 1500 mg metformin; 3 cycles of Clomid + TI = BFN

    3 endometrial biopsies all were "out of phase" 

    September - December, 2013:  Break to lose weight and get healthy

    40 lb weight loss but still not ovulating "in phase"  

    February - March 2014: bcps + follistim + trigger + TI = BFP

     Beta #1 (12dpo): 30; Beta #2 (18dpo): 500; Beta #3 (25dpo): 7,000!!! 

    1st u/s 4/16: One beautiful hb at 144 bmp 

    2nd u/s 4/29: hb at 166 bmp.  Graduated from RE!!

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  • gsanchogsancho member
    Thanks for the encouragement!  I don't think I could ever give up queso...unless my RE says my ovaries are allergic to cheese, or something.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
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  • babydreams13babydreams13 member
    Uhhh, sorry.  People who haven't dealt with IF don't get it.  This is why I can't tell my mom or anyone about our issues.  I just don't wanna deal.  
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    DX: Unexplained
    6 Failed IUIs (Clomid and Gonal F).  
    IVF #1 began August 2013- BC, 4 days of Estrace, stimmed with Gonal F and Menopur, Ganirelix, 9R 5M 5F, Medrol and Doxycycline, 5 day transfer of 2 early blastocysts- good quality, Progesterone, Estrace, and baby aspirin, BETA on 9/20 BFN,   IVF #2 began September 2013, stimming with Gonal F (higher dose) and Menopur, Ganirelix, 18R 14M 9F with ICSI, 5 day transfer of 2 BBs one was starting to hatch, 2 frosties: 1  BB and 1 AC, BETA on 10/21, BFN BETA was a 5- chemical 
    Getting some more testing and trying to figure out what the issue is before FET in December, started acupuncture on 11/10, RLP and some other BW nothing major to report except slightly high Prolactin. Prolactin was slightly high when I started with my RE and I already had an MRI which was Neg.  Endo biopsy=negative.  WTF is wrong with us???
    12/18/13 FET of 1 BB and 1 AC.  Hoping for a miracle.  Beta 12/26 Low BETA-8 2nd BETA 5- chemical
    After 3 failed transfers IDK where to go from here.  Still no real answers as to why this isn't working.  Getting a second opinion in February and looking into immune testing.  
    2/14- NEW RE- Immune testing showed a partial dq alpha match with DH- On prednisone and did intralipids prior to transfer.  3/14 Lupron, gonal f, menopur, HGH.  ER 15 mature all 15 fertilized!  5dt of an early blast grade 1 and an expanded blast grade 2.  BETA on 4/21.  1 grade 2 embryo frozen
    BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121.  US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE.  EDD 12/28


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  • Soon2BMrsHessSoon2BMrsHess member
    I was an oopsie too. My mother has no idea what it's like to go thru IF. Even though we are having an IUI, my mother tells EVERYONE I am having IVF. It's not that big of a deal, but I wished she listened the 1000 times I have explained the difference. Sorry to hear about that girl.
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    Married 2/5/2005
    TTC #1
    DH SA-Normal
    HSG-Clear/All other bw-Good
    Currently on 100mg of Clomid days 5-9/Metformin 1500mg
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