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October 2012 Moms
MIL food vent
So last night I took Brant to a small graduation for my husbands cousin. DH didnt feel like going so I took the baby by myself for a little bit.
Backstory:
At brants 6 month little party, I told everyone that I did not want him to eat the cake frosting. Well my MIL and FIL bullied me into letting him have some. It wasnt much and I know it didnt hurt him but that isnt the point. They know my opinion and dont respect it.
Forward to last night and my MIL takes B from me and brings him in to show off. I mingled a little and when I found them, they were dunking his paci in cupcake frosting and feeding it to him. I was livid. When we left I called DH and told him that he needed to have a talk with his mother about respecting my authority. She got all butthurt over it and basically said I needed to lighten up. He told her that if something like that happened again that I am to take our son and leave. Ugh. Why cant people just respect others decisions?!
Backstory:
At brants 6 month little party, I told everyone that I did not want him to eat the cake frosting. Well my MIL and FIL bullied me into letting him have some. It wasnt much and I know it didnt hurt him but that isnt the point. They know my opinion and dont respect it.
Forward to last night and my MIL takes B from me and brings him in to show off. I mingled a little and when I found them, they were dunking his paci in cupcake frosting and feeding it to him. I was livid. When we left I called DH and told him that he needed to have a talk with his mother about respecting my authority. She got all butthurt over it and basically said I needed to lighten up. He told her that if something like that happened again that I am to take our son and leave. Ugh. Why cant people just respect others decisions?!
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Wow I just don't get why people think it's so great to feed babies crap for their amusement. Thank goodness your husband backed you up. It sounds like you will have to really stand firm next time you see your MIL and maybe keep hold of your LO.
Side note: My sister who is pregnant with number four let Ashley put grass in her mouth and said it's no big deal if she eats it. I did get the grass out though. I feel your pain.
This is the first time he has ever stood up to her in my defense. I am glad, however, that this is the issue that he chose to do it over. She has already told me that she will give him anything he asks for when he is at her house, I just laughed then, now...its a mission for that not to happen. All kids wants ice cream and cake for breakfast, lets hope she gains some sense before letting him actually get that.
My MIL at Christmas wanted to feed LO a ring pop type sucker... So many things wrong with that. She said well I thought she would like the sugar.
I have thoughts that are non related and related to your vent.
Non-related:
1) That's nice of you to go to your husband's cousin's party even though your DH 'didn't feel like going'. Was he sick? I wouldn't go to my dh's cousin's party without him. That would be a free afternoon in my book!
2) You had a party for your kid's 6 month? I've never heard of that. I don't even know if we acknolowedged Kate's. Just her normal 6 month picture with a 6 sticker.
Related:
1) That's good your DH stood up to her/is on your side.
2) How f'ing frustrating. Like MBM said... I feel like grandparents don't do anything with their kids like they want to do with grandkids. It's so frustrating. No one is giving my kid frosting at 7 months old, nor would they pressure me to do so. Will it hurt him? No. Like you said, he's fine. It's the fact that she's not respecting your parenting decision. It's as simple as that. I know this isn't the first time you've had MIL issues. That sucks. I feel like you're going to have to be worried every time he's over there without you if they're following your parenting decisions.
I'd be pissed if MIL did that. Glad that your H said something though.
I also think people lump their baby's babyhood in one. So they can say that your DH ate frosting when he was a baby, so it's fine for your baby.
Sure, when he was a baby of 18 months, NOT when he was a baby of 7 months.
I've noticed this a lot with people with grown up children. When A was "a baby" he did X.
In other news, my LO is rooting at my belly button.
We did indeed have a half birthday party for him haha. It wasnt really a party, just immediate family and a couple friends at McAllisters. I had a friend bake and frost a small cake and cut it in half for his "half birthday". This is where the frosting came in. I posted about in last month on the 10th of last month with pics. Cannot link on mobile. Sorry.
And no, MH wasnt sick. Just didnt want to go, but I knew most of the people there hadnt seen Brant since Christmas so I figured it wouldnt hurt to go for an hour or so, except I left mad haha.
Pahaha LO has been rooting EVERYWHERE on me lately. He has started sitting on the floor and rubbing my shin and calf.
I would would be upset, too. I had to stop my FIL from feeding my DS frosting at his baptism. LO was 4 months then.
And my MIL proudly says her son's first solid food was a McDonald's french fry. She keeps asking me if she can feed DS solids -- and by that, she means adult food. I keep reminding her that DS has just 2 teeth growing in, and that he only eats breast milk and purees.
I really don't trust her to be alone with DS.
Pahah no shiz
I think you are on to something there!