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Anxiety About LO Meeting Family

Jamie074Jamie074 member
in January 2013 Moms

M DH and I live man states away from both of our families. We are going to visit them in a couple weeks, but I've been having a lot of anxiety about LO meeting some of them for the first time. 

I'm mostly concerned with DH's side of the family. They have been in tears and somewhat depressed that they haven't seen LO yet since he's been born. (Our plans to visit have kept getting delayed.) I'm worried because since DH' family has been anticipating seeing LO so much, what if they are sick or something and don't tell us, just so they can see him? We probably won't see his relatives again until Christmas. One time I posted a picture of LO on facebook and one of DH's aunts commented "I can't wait to see you so we can play kissy face!" Uhm, no! I don't want anyone to kiss my baby other than DH and me. What do I do if someone tries to kiss him and be polite about the situation?

 

On my side of the family, I have two aunts that smoke. They don't really smell that bad, but I still know they smoke and their hair smells like smoke a bit even though they have cleaned up. I don't want them to hold LO because they smoke. I feel like this is a bit unfair to them, but I need to stick up for my LO and his health. How do I approach that situation?

 

Or am I just being super selfish about everything? DH and I don't have family or friends nearby, so we don't have to share LO with others very often. I don't think I mind sharing him, but I'm just concerned about those couple of things. And I'm just hoping he won't be too overwhelmed with all of the attention.

 

Thanks! 

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  • 82Sonia82Sonia member
    I think it's fine to worry. I also think it's fine to tell the smoker aunts that they have to change into clean clothes. We have extended family members with a new baby and they required that with their immediate family and no one had a problem.

     

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  • caseylynwcaseylynw member
    I think its ok to be worried, but I also think maybe your worrying a little to much. The smoking aunts should change and tie up their hair first, and if someone is sick they should stay a respectful distance from LO, but as long as their clean and not sick I really don't see why them kissing LO's cheek or head would be such a big issue. Everyone likes to kiss babies
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  • zonagirliezonagirlie member
    I've seen a sign for carriages that say "I'm too small for your big germs. Please don't touch me with dirty hands." Or just be a momma bear and be tough. I had to tell my dad to change and wash up every time he smoked while we visited him. Just gotta do what you gotta do.
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  • jas9210jas9210 member
    imagecaseylynw:
    I think its ok to be worried, but I also think maybe your worrying a little to much. The smoking aunts should change and tie up their hair first, and if someone is sick they should stay a respectful distance from LO, but as long as their clean and not sick I really don't see why them kissing LO's cheek or head would be such a big issue. Everyone likes to kiss babies


    This. Just tell your aunts who smoke to change their clothes and put their hair up or they can't hold LO. DH has many smokers in his family and they usually don't hold DD if they smell like smoke. As for the kissing relatives its really no big deal ad long as they aren't sick. LO probably gets worse germs just going to Walmart than from healthy people kissing him. You can't keep kids in a bubble no matter how much we all wish we could!
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  • Jamie074Jamie074 member
    Thank you ladies so much! 
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