Coping Skills for Separation from SO

SilentSymphony · May 2013

I'm 35 weeks pregnant with DD #2 and I'm still dealing with my depression. About 2 weeks ago my SO left 2 hours away to work so we'd have some money, we've both been out of work for almost 2 years so he jumped on the opportunity. It provides him with living quarters but its barley big enough for him so he's going to save half the money and end up the other half to me for baby expenses. But ever since my due date became a month away I have been having deep periods of sadness and it's really taking a toll on me. He plans on visiting every weekend but it seems like forever and he plans on having enough money by September... Does anyone have any coping skills they can suggest? I'm already going to PPD therapy....But it doesnt seem like enough.

kgrobot · May 2013

That is rough, girl, no two ways about it. I feel for you!

I don't know if this helps, but my DH and I had a couple of periods of working in different places before we had our son, and would only see each other on weekends. The first time really sucked and I swore we'd never do it again, but then I got a job in another state and he had to stay behind to finish up a contract for six months at another job--all in all we did a year and a half apart. The best thing I found was to call each other as often as you need to or can (depending on your phone plan!) and make dates to talk at night before you go to bed, if you can. That helped me get through it. DH would also send me little notes or cards in the mail that I would get mid-week, and vice versa--we sort of made a game of it, sending funny things back and forth to cheer each other up.

Also, don't forget to reach out to friends, family, neighbors, etc. who are around you when you need someone to talk to or help out with the baby.

Just take it week by week, and keep your eye on that light at the end of the tunnel. September will get here before you know it!

SilentSymphony · May 2013

Thank you! My friends and family sadly do not support my decision to stay with him during this period and say I should just forget about him. I guess when he got down there he found out he wouldn't be starting for another week or so, so now his phones shut off for 3 weeks until he gets paid

Everythings just getting so stressful and it just feels too close to my due date to have all this happening. I'm afraid that I won't be able to get ahold of him to buy his ticket to make it up here on time

I'm literally having nightmares and panic attacks daily....I'm losing sleep (super separation anxiety)

cbmp06 · May 2013

Oh my, I feel for you. That sounds super stressful and you are way too close to your due date to be going through this. I know you are worried about him getting back and I am not trying to make that seem unimportant, but just remember, taking care of you and baby is what is #1 right now!

I just wanted to tell you that I am married, my husband and I live under the same roof, and I have anxiety when he goes to WORK.... Sunday night/Monday mornings are the worst for me. Total separation anxiety. So even though I can't say I know what you are going through, I know how you feel. I'm sorry you are going through this and have no support Try to hang in there, mama.

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