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Lisadi
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If this was your MIL (potty training)
Lisadi
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DH's step-mom has been making comments about potty training every time we've seen or talked with her since DS turned 2. They live 3 hours away and are busy, so we don't see them too much.
But, at Christmas she told me how her son was potty trained at age 2.
Then, they stopped by a couple months later with additional company (her sister and sister-in-law). And while in the room with DS she abruptly asked me, "When is DS going to potty train?" I was shocked and I'm sure my facial expression matched my feeling. I composed myself and said simply, "When he is ready."
We called to announce that we're expecting. We had her on speaker phone since DS told her that'd he'd be a big brother. We were on the phone for less than 10 minutes, and she had to comment that it was great because then DS could potty train this summer.
They came into town the other week, and she proceeded to tell me a story about sister-in-laws nephew who is a few months older than DS. She said they were starting "nakey time weekend" and wanted to know if I had heard of that. I said that yes, I had heard of the 3 day method.
I don't know if she's this way with me because of her relationship with DH. I can't wait to see if she's this obnoxious with DH's little sister if she has kids.
In the meantime, I've about had it. I don't want to visit with them because it just sours the visit. I was thinking about scanning some of the pages from my potty training books (about how 20-ish % of kids are trained at 2.5, 66% by 3, etc.) and sending it to her as some "up-to-date information that I've come across.
So, what would you do? How do your mothers and mother-in-laws compare in their pushiness?
I've done some pre-potty experiences with DS. Before he was even walking I remember reading about the 3 day method and thinking, "Sign me up for that!" But, as I see his personality I'm not sure that's the method I'd use. He has sat on the potty and peed some. I may have messed up by having wrapped prizes early on, because eventually he'd just sit on the potty and say "Go, gone! You (meaning he) want a prize!!" And, he'd tense up and then wouldn't pee. So, I've backed away for awhile. One time after a nap he even told me he had to go, and he pooped! But, he hasn't done that since. He just turned 2.5. He has good verbal skills, but doesn't show much interest himself. He still hides to poop, and doesn't tell me that he's pooped. I'd much rather wait a little bit more, and hopefully have him show more interest.
But, at Christmas she told me how her son was potty trained at age 2.
Then, they stopped by a couple months later with additional company (her sister and sister-in-law). And while in the room with DS she abruptly asked me, "When is DS going to potty train?" I was shocked and I'm sure my facial expression matched my feeling. I composed myself and said simply, "When he is ready."
We called to announce that we're expecting. We had her on speaker phone since DS told her that'd he'd be a big brother. We were on the phone for less than 10 minutes, and she had to comment that it was great because then DS could potty train this summer.
They came into town the other week, and she proceeded to tell me a story about sister-in-laws nephew who is a few months older than DS. She said they were starting "nakey time weekend" and wanted to know if I had heard of that. I said that yes, I had heard of the 3 day method.
I don't know if she's this way with me because of her relationship with DH. I can't wait to see if she's this obnoxious with DH's little sister if she has kids.
In the meantime, I've about had it. I don't want to visit with them because it just sours the visit. I was thinking about scanning some of the pages from my potty training books (about how 20-ish % of kids are trained at 2.5, 66% by 3, etc.) and sending it to her as some "up-to-date information that I've come across.
So, what would you do? How do your mothers and mother-in-laws compare in their pushiness?
I've done some pre-potty experiences with DS. Before he was even walking I remember reading about the 3 day method and thinking, "Sign me up for that!" But, as I see his personality I'm not sure that's the method I'd use. He has sat on the potty and peed some. I may have messed up by having wrapped prizes early on, because eventually he'd just sit on the potty and say "Go, gone! You (meaning he) want a prize!!" And, he'd tense up and then wouldn't pee. So, I've backed away for awhile. One time after a nap he even told me he had to go, and he pooped! But, he hasn't done that since. He just turned 2.5. He has good verbal skills, but doesn't show much interest himself. He still hides to poop, and doesn't tell me that he's pooped. I'd much rather wait a little bit more, and hopefully have him show more interest.
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Re: If this was your MIL (potty training)
Your MIL might just be trying to help, but she's annoying anyway. My MIL suggests ridiculous stupid things all the time. I just tell her, oh yeah I don't want to do that, or thanks I'll look into it and I freaking ignore her. She's wrong about pretty much 100% of everything in her life.
She's flaky and an airhead. She means well but her suggestions are usually REALLY bad. Like for example, she teaches K at a REALLY bad inner city public school in Chicago. She's probably a perfectly fine teacher but she complains her kids can't even flip the pages of a book because they're not read to at home. Also half of her students don't speak English and they don't have a good bilingual program so they learn nothing.
So, now to my point, she constantly tells me I should put our 2 yr old in a daycare program at her school because she'll learn a lot if she socializes with other kids. I know she means well but I would rather shoot myself in the foot than send my toddler to her school. Also it's far away and in a HORRIBLE neighborhood with shootings all around the school. Anyway I just tell her that it's too far and thanks!
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If it's not this, it will be something else... When are you going to potty-train? When are you going to wean from bfing? When are you going to make him sleep in his own room? When are you going to turn around the carseat? When are you going to let them walk to school alone? When are you going to let them eat whatever they want at gma's house? Etc... I wouldn't pick this battle too much. Next time she says something, just say you aren't going to train him at all ever. You thought it would be fun to change diapers until he's 18 and goes to college.
Seriously, if it bugs you that much, I'd say something though. "I feel like you are attacking our parenting choices. My pediatrician agrees with us that he isn't ready. If you can't quit commenting, we'll have to stop visiting. We will eventually train him, but it's our choice when and how to begin that process."
LoL, it's true but remember, you too will be a MIL if you are lucky ;-)