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November 2012 Moms
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what is your sleep training regime?
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for those of you who have sleep trained. What was your strategy?
CIO only?
or did you do some sort of "visit and shh" approach, and if so, how frequent were your visits?
Any of you pick up-put down as part of your training?
And what was the longest stretch of crying you (and LO) had to endure?
Thinking of doing this tonight and looking for suggestions on what other parents have found to work...
THANK YOU?
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Re: what is your sleep training regime?
I used the CIO approach. I modified it a bit and only used it for night sleep. Not naps. At the beginning of the night I went in, in 5 minute intervals until she fell asleep. In the MOTN she wakes around 3-4 am so I feed her and put her back in crib awake. When I went in, I patted and shushed her, no picking up. AND I stopped giving her the paci at night too! SO because im still feeding in MOTN, I don't usually endure CIO at that time.
The first night she cried for 1/2 hour, the next - 15 mins.
The longest crying stretch was 1hr and 10 mins (I decided to use CIO in the MOTN the first night). I cried. Although, it worked....beautifully. However, after a week or so, we started rocking her to sleep at night...FAIL. She reverted back to waking every 2 hours. So now im doing it all over again.
Be consistent
And don't give up. You don't want to be in my shoes re-training.
The most LO cried at a time was about 20 minutes. He cried off and on for over an hour one night early one. That was less crying than when we were rocking and shushing hin to sleep!
Sleep training really worked for us, but I wouldn't try it without reading the book first. If you do it wrong or are inconsistent, you're not going to like the results.
I could get flamed for this, but I will tell you what we did. We really didn't research CIO much at all. What happened was we were miserable with putting LO to bed at night. It took hours, and no one was happy, or getting any rest. We talked to his pedi at his 4 month appt. She asked if we had ever just let him CIO to see what happened. I said no, but she suggested we try it. She never told us anything about Ferber, or these other methods, just said let him cry for a while and see what happens. So that is what we did, that night.
At first I really wanted to go check on him, and shush him without picking him up. For him, it made things worse. Whenever I would come in his room to try and shush him, it was like he now had an audience, and he would scream louder than ever. We finally just had to leave him alone to CIO. The first night, it took about 30 minutes for him to fall asleep (this was the longest he ever went). The time got shorter every single night we did it. It was just under 2 weeks before I could put him down with no crying at all. The last few nights of that were crying for like a minute or two.
It has been a total life saver. Nights are a total breeze now. He has slept through the night ever since we did this also. It has even helped his napping, even though we never had to have him CIO at nap time. I think it just taught him the skill of self soothing. We were just upset we didn't try it sooner. Good luck!
This is what we are doing. We already did training for going to sleep by himself so now I am just working on his one MOTN waking. Last night, he woke at 3:50 am and I only went in 3 times. It took 38 mins before he went back to sleep and he only cried for the first 23 mins.
V was pretty good about going to bed, it was MOTN weaklings that killed us. We used the progressive visit method.
We let him cry for 5 min before we even go in. Then we go in to comfort but not more than 2 minutes. No picking up.
Next time we wait 10 min. Same routine. Next time 15 min. Then from there it's every 15 min.
Longest crying period was the first night... 1 hour 20 min. Torture. i cried right along with him. Next night was 1 hour. Next night he woke up 3 times...put himself back first 2, cried for 15 min next time and back to sleep.
Now he's pretty good. If he cries longer now, I know something is bothering him.
I will say there are 4 things I learned for sure,
1. I have more success if I can get him to NOT fall asleep drinking last bottle. If I can put him in drowsy he is more likely to be more successful. If he falls asleep drinking bottle, the first time he wakes (usually 11), I will pick him up to comfort for 2 min and lay him back down. Seems to work for us
2. I found V isn't a fan of the dark. I needed to get a brighter night light.
3. I will replace paci one time. It's not his fault we made him paci dependent. For us this works. It takes me less than a minute and I'm back to sleep and so is he.
4. Stick to it....if you wait an hour and then cave you just undid all if that hard work.
V is down to waking once (4:30 ish) and maybe one other time around 11 if he fell asleep drinking. He's doing great and momma has more sleep which is a good thing!
Good luck!
we were similar to this....we did the weissbluth extinction method. The longest she cried was 45 minutes ( night 1), then 15 min (night 2) and finally 5 min(night 3). We tried Ferber but going in at intervals just made it worse....
After a lot of supportive comments from bumpies on various boards I decided to try the Hogg method of pick up put down in combo with a bedtime routine. My feeling is that my LO seems to be a super sensitive little gal who startles and is overwhelmed easily. she also suffered terrible reflux and colic, so I was eager to not revisit those tearful days.
anyway, pupd ended up being more of a cuddle after reading and before bed. We've had the bedtime routine for months and not much was happening. I thought maybe I was failing her by not doing it CIO or Ferber, but things seem to be progressing well. The last two nights she has soothed herself to sleep - no tears anywhere at any point. I'm hoping this is it.