Just For Fun...How would Lotto win affect your BF

Hopeforthebest · May 2013

We all like to daydream about what it would be like to win the big lotteries.

But for Blended Families I wonder what, if any different things, WE would do with such a windfall.

Cheerilee · May 2013

If it weren't totally immoral... We'd pay off BM for her to sign over custody of SS so I could adopt him. DH actually suggested that in our hypothetical lotto win talk.

Otherwise, I'd do the norm: pay bills, college funds, vacations, build a house, buy a new SUV, help family...

+just+j+ · May 2013

Things would just be worse between XH and I and his family. I'd naturally not make him pay child support but then I know XSD and XSS and other family members would come crawling out of the woodwork trying to "be family" to DD.

XH would resent me and constantly hound me for money. Or somehow get it out of DD at some point I'm sure. DD would be made to feel obligated to take care of her father.

Ugh. Makes me sick just thinking about it.

Phantomgirl · May 2013

I'd pay off BMs mortgage and probably give her a lump sum or a lot of CS.

Id want SS to have a nice home and comfortable life but I would never want to take him away from her so I'd set her up I guess.

My brother would benefit for sure. Then our families.

A dilemma for me would be that I would want to give a lot to my brother. DH has 5 siblings so they would get something but not equal to my brother!
I know that's mean! BUT if we ever win it will be DH who does as I never do the lotto!!

bebe11 · May 2013

I don't think it would change our BF situation, other than having bigger and better things.

hindsight's_a_biotch · May 2013

I'd be a whole lot less irritated over his refusal to contribute to her dance costs.

twister22 · May 2013

hindsight's_a_biotch:
I'd be a whole lot less irritated over his refusal to contribute to her dance costs.

Lol this one's my favorite.

I'm not sure that winning the lotto would really change our BF situation. I think I'd let DS buy himself his sister from BD, E, nice toys/stuff for BD's house. Maybe I'd help BD with a house down payment, but I'm not sure.

I would give half to my dad (and mom) first. He has done so much for me and my family, and so has my mom. It would be a small way I could thank them.

Then, I'd pay off the mortgage and set the rest aside for retirement and college funds for the kids. I guess DH & I might take a simple cruise vacation too.

sabrina69barnes · May 2013

We wouldn't want BM to let me adopt SKs but we would bribe her into changing the CO so DH is the CP and she could have EOWE.

A slightly larger house would be nice and there are some vacations it would be fun to take the kids on but changing the CO is the only thing I could think of that would make a huge difference for us if we won a lot of money.

Pamelacake · May 2013

Cheerilee:
If it weren't totally immoral... We'd pay off BM for her to sign over custody of SS so I could adopt him. DH actually suggested that in our hypothetical lotto win talk.
Otherwise, I'd do the norm: pay bills, college funds, vacations, build a house, buy a new SUV, help family...

lol! I feel you!!

Pamelacake · May 2013

a bigger house or even just adding onto this one as the kids are established in school. We love the school here and they are making good friends here. But 6 children and, 2 adults and one bathroom is Not enough! Lol.

Definitely getting out of debt and putting money back for each of the kids. We are working on buying 17yo SD and 16yo SS their first cars now. I know it seems a little late for SD she will be 18 next month but she has been terrified to drive!

I woould probably still pretend like we were broke mostly. That's what we do now when we come across and extra 5 to 700 bucks because with so many children we never know what will come up! allthough I do splurge a little here and there it's always for the kids.

I have sold almost all of my designer bags, and a lot of clothes and shoes to get them something they wanted or needed. DH doesn't get child support from either one of his X's.

Ilumine · May 2013

Honestly, it would make life worse for our Blended Family situation.

BM has already stolen $26,000 from the stepkids and maybe even more money from SD. She has never once paid a single cent of child support for SS, since he came to live with us. She refused to take her Christmas or Spring Break holidays when we were overseas because she did not want to pay for the flights...the same cost she demanded we solely pay when we sent SS back to her for her summer visistation even though she is required to pay 50% of. BM never once spent a dime on SD's college career, but had a hissyfit when SD gave US the spare room to see SD graduate from her Masters Program (which DH financially supported through HIS GI Bill).

This is the same woman who paid off her house, purchased a pool and pool house, buys brand new cars every 3 years and bought a timeshare...all the while claiming that she is too poor to even send SS $20 to buy his prom date a corsage.

I KNOW that she would come out of the woodwork.

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