IF frustration

PennyLane26 · May 2013

Not looking for advice just hoping somebody here can understand...

i already have baby fever! Both DH and I would love to have another ASAP. Here's my dilemma,

We are lucky to have 7 frosties. But this fact makes me feel irresponsible TTC on our own. After seeing my beautiful baby I know I want to give each of those snow babies a chance.

I guess this is just a vent, because no one could convince me otherwise, but it sucks that everything has to be so planned out because of this. I can't just "wing it" or have that special moment of surprising DH because I have to wean LO and schedule FETs. Plus, I want to get pregnant soon, I'd love to have babies close together but I also know I want to BF for at least 7-8 months and can't start any protocol before that's over and done with- I'm sad thinking about it already! IF sucks.

vent over

Dragonfly1226 · May 2013

We were in exactly the same place. We had 7 frozen embryos that we wanted to give a chance so we did not TTC on our own before going back to use those frozen embryos. In the end, I am glad we waited and used our embies. Although when DS was an infant we thought we wanted to TTC again immediately, as he got a bit older we realized it was best to wait. I wanted to BF for a year, and we also wanted time to enjoy DS and our family before jumping back on the roller coaster.

TJ1979 · May 2013

I'm in a similar but different boat. I can definitely relate to your feelings though. We do not have frosties waiting on us, so that does make your issue more complicated. I am right there with you though on really wanting to TTC again, but not being ready to wean. And not getting to have that surprise BFP. I thought up so many fun ways to surprise MH when we were originally TTC. And I'll never have that moment. It sucks! For now I'm just trying to focus on enjoying E, and spending as much time as possible with her, soaking in every minute of her first year. And just waiting till she's 12 months to figure out the rest. Big hugs girl.

mnj05 · May 2013

We don't have any frozen so I'm not quite in your position. We would love a surprise BFP, but with our dx, it's not likely at all. I'm still a little nervous to have a surprise BFP this early so we are taking some precautions, which is so strange but since my c/s, I'm freaked over getting pregnant too soon and not being able to try a VBAC if I want to. DH on the other hand is ready to go back to the RE in one year or even less.

kaf7 · May 2013

I hear you. I am having major angst about having to stop BF in about 6 weeks just for the chance to try IVF again in oct/nov. I hate it.

PennyLane26 · May 2013

Thanks for commiserating. Im working on taking it one day at a time and enjoying my perfect baby girl - agreed TJ!

imoverit · May 2013

chiwifey:
IF takes so much joy away from us and it is completely unfair. I've been having a particularly tough time lately with it and the bitterness it's still causing me. I'm just trying my best to do as others have said and focus on my precious lil guy.nbsp;Big hugs to you and all of us because IF just plain ol' sucks!!!nbsp;

All of this!!!

fullfhope · May 2013

I agree it sucks. We don't have any frosties, so not same situation, but with my diagnosis (DOR) and my age (39 next month!) we don't have much chance on our own and we can't really wait before heading back to RE. But LO is just 3 months, and we are so enjoying BF, just the thought of weaning makes me sad. IF really sucks.

Ms H13 · May 2013

I can definitely relate. Our girls just turned 1 month old yesterday and I am already somewhere between curious and anxious about whether or not we will be able to have other children. I definitely feel very lucky and blessed to have my babies, but we also have frosties (2) that we will give a chance when the time is right.

While I am trying to focus on enjoying my sweet girls and giving them all my love, our remaining embies are still on my mind regularly.

queenbone · May 2013

I'll commiserate with you. IF totally sucks! Why can't we just make normal people decisions?!

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