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irishgirl0525
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Told SDs about the baby last night (or attempted to tell)
irishgirl0525
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Soooo, we told SDs last night. Background: I had posted about 10 days ago I was nervous about this.
SD 2 (18) was at our house last night for visitation and we told her. She seemed genuinely happy
for us and surprised and said congratulations and while I'm sure she
will need to process this news more, I don't anticipate any issues. She did ask if we had told her sister yet and we told her that DH would tell her that night, and we wanted them to be able to discuss with each other if they wanted to, but could she just hold off on texting her until we had a chance to tell her, which she was totally fine with and said she could wait a day or two.
DH talked with her more on the car ride home just to see if she had any immediate concerns and she seems fine. She is leaving for college later this summer and is happy she won't be around for any babysitting duties (they joked about this) and she said while she doesn't really like kids, one of her friends has a young sibling and she is getting better in her dislike of children. Ok, that's fine.
Not surprisingly, it did not go so well with SD 1 (20). Because of the strained relationship between her and me, DH thought it best to tell her himself and it was over the phone because that was the only option possible. (This was one of the topics of my previous post). I left the room and went upstairs.
They spent about 15 minutes on the phone with her while she told him what
classes she is registering for this summer session and then he told her that he has some exciting news and before he could even tell her, she said "I just
can't deal with this right now, I can't talk to you about this, I can't hear this, I just
can't deal with this". He told her he loved her and she hung up.
We'll see what the next few days brings. I knew she wasn't going to respond like her sister did, and we both said it's probably better that she got off the phone instead of saying something impulsive that might be hurtful and couldn't be taken back. I know she will need to process it, but I see a long road ahead.
TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.
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Re: Told SDs about the baby last night (or attempted to tell)
I was just thinking of you this morning and wondering how your SDs took the news. I'm glad SD18 had a positive response. Hopefully she'll be able to be a good sounding board for her sister. It's also a good thing that your other SD was able to be mature enough to just get off the phone vs. blowing up or doing something hurtful. It's big news and she needs time to process it. It sounds like it went pretty well overall though.
How did the rest of the family react to the news?
Thanks 10-4 for thinking of me...I do hope they can talk to each other about it. It could be a bit of a drain on the younger one but they do lean on each other when they need to.
My guess is that she will reach out to DH in the next few days and have a talk about it when she is ready.
We told my sisters and brother (I am the oldest of 5) on Saturday night, my parents already knew. It went great, I bought my mom, aunt and grandmother T-shirts that said "my baby is having a baby" "great grandma to be" and "great-aunt to be". My aunt knew but my grandma didn't know.
They opened their gifts at the same time and everyone figured it out they were really surprised and excited. I was really happy to get to do a surprise to my siblings, it was easier than I thought to keep the secret from them for so long!
How are things going with you and the babies?