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bullies2005 · May 2013

I have been lurking since my loss.

So my Ava was born sleeping 03/26/2013, at 29 weeks. All the test came back and nothing wrong was found with her or me. I'm not sure if that is a good thing or not. I was doing pretty good at handling the loss,or at least the last couple of weeks. We had just closed on our new house and with packing and moving and with my 2 yr old I didn't have time to just let myself lay there and get too depress. I have to be strong, that's what I keep telling myself. I have to just keep praying, keep moving forward.

LIke I said I was doing ok. Then Monday night my fur baby dies too!!! He was 9 1/2 years old, healthy bulldog. Now I'm a mess again! Why?!?!? is all this happening to us! Trust me I knew my fur baby was not going to be with us forever but now, why did he have to leave me now too!! First my daughter now my fur baby.

I also have tried calling two different support groups and I get no answer. I feel like I'm alone on this.

Sorry I feel like I'm just rambling and nothing makes sense.

jess123456 · May 2013

Huge hugs to you. So sorry for the loss of your Ava. Please know that you have come to a wonderful place filled with those who understand. Please also know that you aren't alone and we are always here to listen. Your loss is so new and it's totally OK to have days where you don't feel strong at all. I don't have any living children but others here do and I am sure they can offer guidance about having another child at home.

Sorry you haven't had any luck with the support groups in your area. Perhaps your doctor or hospital might have some resources for you that are active?

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Noethola · May 2013

I am so very sorry for your loss of Ava and then to loose your comfort of your fur baby as well. I hope you are able to find a support group soon!

HullGut · May 2013

I am so sorry that Ava is not here with you. It is such a hard time in life, we are so fragile and one more thing can be too much. Losing your furbaby is hard and horrible but add to it what you are going through and its unimaginable. My dog got out of the yard yesterday and was missing for about 30 minutes. I know that does not compare to what your going through but the whole time I kept thinking not her too. I can't lose her and my son that is too much for one year. I am so sorry you lost your furbaby too. I had trouble finding a support group but ended up finding one at a hospital other than the one I delivered at. Good luck.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · May 2013

***SIGGY WARNING***

I so sorry for both of your losses. When we were moving last year, DH couldn't find our dog so he assumed he ran off (we've had him for 4 years and he's never ran off). I immediately broke down and had a panic attack and then was running around our neighborhood crying and screaming. Turns out he was hiding behind a pile of blankets and pillows and was about the same color as them. This was almost a year after we lost our son and the mere thought of him possibly being gone upset me so badly. I can only imagine how horrible you're feeling right now. You are not alone. We are all here for you. Wishing you peace and love.

tuscanbride2007 · May 2013

I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl, Ava and also to lose your fur baby as well. I hope you find comfort among these amazing women!

((HUGS))

shandorfml2 · May 2013

So sorry for the loss of your Ava and pup. Lots of hugs and love to you. Nothing was found wrong with me or my daughter either. You've found a good board with lots of supportive ladies...

MAYashes86 · May 2013

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your daughter Ava & your dog. It seems that so many things pile up at once , and it really isn't fair. I find that it helps to try & keep busy & focus on just taking things one moment at a time. You are not alone though, all of the women here have also experienced a late loss, feel free to post at any time

meli1025 · May 2013

I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your daughter, Ava. My sweet angel shares her name. We also were unable to find a cause for why her heart just stopped. I'm also so sorry to hear about your dog. ((HUGE HUGS)) to you. This is a great board with so many supportive women. I wish you didn't have to join us, but we are all here for you.

Carolee · May 2013

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious Ava and for the loss of your dog. I'm also sorry you're not getting a response from the support groups. I hope you can find support here.

ctilley7911 · May 2013

Im in tears reading this i am sooooo sorry for your painful losses. I lost my benjamin in sleep may 1st i went in hospital on the 29th. ihad him the day before i was to turn 31 weeks. I am in so much pain from it but feel i need to be strong for my husband i could easily fall into a deep black hole that takes months to crawl out of but i cant do that to him he dont eseve to loose a wife to. but i do have multiple break downs maybe up to 3 in a day somedays i can be okish maybe just tear up.

Please dont feel alone we understand how you feel. God knows i do we lost our babys days apart. its still fresh it will be for a while. my husband has been amazing for me to lean on. Also finding other moms in the same area as i am and recieve support and supporting others really helps. i Pray you find the support you need and you find some comfort sooner then later. Again i am so sorry.

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