Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Banz
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Re: C section making you sick
I did get sick. I was in labor all day and asked for Zofran when I got the epi which helped. I reminded my anesthesiologist that night that I don't respond well to the meds (morphine in particular) and he gave me Zofran along with everything else right before they cut me open, then I got another shot of it after I got sick about 2 hours after surgery. Part of mine might also have been that I ate a very small meal at 5:30 that morning and was having surgery at 7:30 that night. I didn't eat again until the next morning.
Just let everyone know before the action gets going that you're afraid of getting sick and the very second you feel it coming on, get something.
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I never got sick with my C-Section, but I second what others have said: if it gives you a lot of anxiety, just be sure to tell all your doctors and nurses that you're worried about it and they can give you something ahead of time to help prevent it. Then just be very open with them about what you are feeling--the moment you start to feel sick, tell them and they can quickly put something in your IV.
Also, if you are having a scheduled C-Section, they'll tell you this... but you aren't supposed to eat for (i forget how many?) hours before the scheduled surgery and that's to help prevent you from throwing up.
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I have had three c/s and did throw up while they were operating on my for the first one. I had eaten a little earlier so that could have been why. But anyways, I told the anesthesiologist I was getting sick, turned my head and threw up in a bucket. I don't remember it being too bad though, just strange and scary.
With both 2 subsequent c/s, I told the Dr what happened and he told me to tell him as soon as I felt sick and he would give me something. That is exactly what happened and told him as soon as I felt queasy. He gave me some medicine ( for low blood pressure) and I felt fine.
So that is my advice to you, tell the anesthesiologist as soon as you feel sick.
I threw up while they were cutting me open. I'm not so sure if they gave me anything for it, or if it would've helped if they had 'cause the stuff they made me drink, combined with just being scared out of my mind, I got to a point where I couldn't hold it back. BUT I have a REALLY bad gag reflex, something all the females in my immediate family (except my daughter, she got lucky) have. It was a wonder I kept anything down due to that. Oddly enough, after I woke up while being wheeled to recovery, I was just wanting food and drink and to see my daughter, not all in that order mind. So after I was perfectly fine, just during it was bad for me.
I do clearly remember them offering to give me something for nausea if it came up before, but by the time it hit, I could barely think so I don't even know if I asked for it or not.
My csection was not planned. I hadn't eaten in 24 hours prior because I was laboring in the hospital already ( water bag had broken the night before ). I threw up while they were doing the procedure (I could feel lots of heavy pushing in my chest/ upper stomach area that made me sick). It was like having dry heaves from a hangover, spitting up in a pan. I think they tried to give me something in my IV but it didn't help.
I also shook the whole time because of nerves...and cried/teared up a bit due to nerves.
This was last Friday. Wish I had a better experience to share.
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I had a scheduled c-section and did not vomit.
Do talk with your OB beforehand about any of your concerns. I had other anxiety, and my OB and the other docs/staff put me at ease.
When I had my DD I got very sick from the percoset. With my DS I made sure to ask for something else for pain because I knew it made me sick. They also gave me meds in my iv I think right before or during my C-section to counteract any chance of getting sick. Sometimes during the procedure your blood pressure can drop a little which can make you feel sick. Your anesthesiologist will be able to see when then happens and give you something to counteract it.
Edited for spelling.
I vomited after taking a percocet. My pain level was pretty low when I took it, but I did have some discomfort so the nurse recommended I take it preemptively.
I had a bad experience vomiting while taking vicodin after I have my wisdom teeth out, and I vomited within about 5 minutes of taking it, so I knew the painkiller was what caused it.
If it makes you feel any better, I honestly didn't need the stronger painkillers though. I took Motrin a few times but really did not have a painful recovery at all.
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