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One & Done: Only child
meo34
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Questions about having another from your Only
meo34
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Just curious. Couple of my friends with onlies have said their LO has asked for a sibling. My son has never asked that...he knows he has has it good...LOL. He has asked why do some familes have more than one child and we have one and I have explained it to him. So have they asked? How did you respond? Did you second guess your choice/situation?
And another question would be was it a passing thing for them or an on going discussion?
Just thought it would be an interesting point for discussion.
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Re: Questions about having another from your Only
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Not fully yet. She's only 2.5 though. She completely gets the concept as there are many in her daycare room with siblings in other rooms as well as several pg moms of the kids in her room, so she understands there are babies in the mom's bellies and those will be sisters or brothers for her friends.
My SIL is also pg with their 2nd, and we told her that "Cousin N is going to be a big brother." She immediately said "Cousin N have a sister!" (Turns out she was right, the new baby is a girl!) Which morphed into "Sister for B in mommy's belly?" Nope, sorry kiddo!
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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At first I read it as "cousin" instead of brother and sister, but then I just started saying the correct words and in a matter of fact way explained that she wouldn't have a sister or brother, but she would have lots of cousins and friends. I almost threw that damn book out. Lol.
I am just very straightforward about it. It doesn't matter if she asks for a sibling. She won't be getting one. I just tell her that's her journey, man. Not everyone has a sibling and she's one of those who won't. No lies. No guilt. Just truth.
DS is 4 and hasn't asked this yet. He definitely understands the concept, but I think with being in daycare and now preschool - he knows that other kids means having to share. I think he likes coming home to HIS toys and not having to share anymore!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
We have talked about this with each other but LO is still too young to have the concept.
DH was an only child and constantly wished for a sibling or more, so it's a big concern for him. Not that he sees it as a reason to have another, but he wants LO to be happier with our family than he was.
And I always got along fine with my brother. So it's not like we'll pretend being an only child is the best, happiest way to be. Just that it's how our lives are. Kinda like he won't have a pony or go to DisneyWorld or all the other things they end up yearning for.
Yes, DS has asked and I told him every family is different and that he has a mommy and a daddy. I then start naming individuals who do not have a brother or sister and also start naming all of the cousins he has that are his age.
I always feel a little bad when he asks those questions because I think he would enjoy a sibling, but I'm just not cut out for multiple children, so I never really second guessed my choice.
DD hasn't really processed this, yet. My two cousins, who I'm very close to and live near by, are both TTC. When they have their LOs, DD will be at least 2 1/2. I'm guessing I'll get questions then.
My plan is to say something similar to pp, "You made our family complete" and let her know how special it is to have her little cousins.
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