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DS has become extra clingy...normal?

CarolineRiceCarolineRice
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For the past week or so, my 9 month old has become SO clingy! He cries almost every time we put him down, unless we get on the floor and play with him. He used be great at playing with toys on the floor for about 15 to 20 minutes at a time, and he was great about chilling in his exersaucer while I showered and got ready. But now it takes me hours just to get out the door! I don't know what I would do if I worked outside the home, I guess I'd just have to let him cry the whole time I was getting ready. We used to go on pretty long walks in the morning but now he hates the stroller. He will ride in the buggy at Target but not for long, then he wants to be picked up. I'm not sure why all this started. He's not sick, he hasn't shown any signs of teething yet, there haven't been any major changes in his world or anything. Don't get me wrong, I love playing with him and snuggling with him, but this is just such different behavior than what he was doing. I don't know if I should give into him every time he cries to be picked up (I don't want him to feel like he's being ignored) or should I let him cry some? As I type this he is whining next to me in his exersaucer. He used to be so relaxed and rarely cried. I'm just wondering what might have caused this? Any thoughts, advice?
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Re: DS has become extra clingy...normal?

  • vrj0522vrj0522 member

    LO started getting separation anxiety at around 9 months too. It was so bad that sometimes he had a hard time even napping or sleeping at night. However, the really bad part where they don't want to be away from you even at home passed pretty quickly. What remained was him freaking out whenever I left him with anyone else. I am a SAHM so I would only leave him in the mornings for an hour at the gym daycare and once a week with a babysitter. He would freak out every time. Even on Sundays when we had dinner with my siblings, he would not want anyone else to hold him. He was cured after I suffered a m/c and my parents came into town. They would hold him all the time and after that the separation anxiety became minimal, I think because he was being held and taken care of by others even when I was there.

    Separation anxiety is very much an individual thing. Don't be afraid to expose him to separation (he needs it in order to grow out of it) but be gentle about it. Babies at this age start to understand that they are separate beings and it can be a scary thing for them. It will pass, hopefully soon. 

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  • traveltheworldtraveltheworld member
    DS was never a cuddly baby when he was young, but separatino anxiety set in at around 8.5 months and he was SO clingy.  You basically had to be within arm's reach of him or he'd freak out.  He has been doing a bit better in the past 2 weeks (he is now 10 months) but I don't know if it's because he is older or whether it's because he has been going to daycare.  Good luck, I know it's hard.
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  • JayandEmmJayandEmm member
    We just went through this, along with a sleep regression! It was a rough couple of weeks. Separation anxiety peaks between 8 and 12 months. It's not something you need to work on changing, just reassure him that your there for him, and it will pass soon. The world is a scary place when you are a baby!
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